this writer talks about speaking at a alanon meeting their fears of everything being perfect ,
when arriving at this meeting finding that nothing was perfect ,the secretary was a substitute who had not the right scripts,
everything that could go wron g did go wrong,
he or she soon felt right at home,higher power had substituted enough familier ,spontaneous elements so that they could feel completely comfortable,
had found they were just a group of members in the fellowship doing their best to muddle through and lend each other a helping hand,
todays reminder I give thanks for the ways my hp finds to cut my pretentions down to size .when I can laugh a little ,I feel less afraid.
I can so relate here as most can also,always anxious when a special occasion arrives ,soon as I arrive finding its not so scary after all,,
being able to laugh a bit is a big help to me,love this special message.as a reminder we are all human with human ways...............have a great day everybody,,,lu
lookingup said
Apr 7, 2018
I did it,lol.my backup wasn't here ,out of town.
sorry I didn't make last Saturdays ,my mistake.
I looked like my pets picture here scared frozen..lol
trying to be honest here ,I'm glad I done it ,the daily on my own,,,lu
Aline said
Apr 7, 2018
Thanks for your service, LU, and your share. I laughed a little about the picture - the cute doggy looks guilty ;D I miss my cat sometimes, but he's better off with the ex-abf who is at home most of the time... The cat would be alone for days and days with me while I'm at work and stuff.
Iamhere said
Apr 7, 2018
Good morning MIP - thank you LU for the daily, your service and your share. Thank you also Aline for your share and ESH. I was the queen of perfection prior to recovery (in my own mind). And, I not only had the highest expectations of self, I applied that to others as well. It was what I learned, how I lived/survived and what I knew.
Arriving @ Al-Anon, and hearing that progress vs. perfection is how it works, I still felt uncertain. I had distorted ideas in my mind that having the right words, knowing the next actions, etc. were signs of greater intelligence and anything 'less' than was a sign of mediocrity. It took me a while of practicing speaking from the heart to feel more comfortable with who I am - an imperfect person. Setting aside all the book smarts I had and the various scripts of how others and I should live, a simpler, one day at a time, aligned with a HP life took shape and remains today for me.
As with most things in recovery, the more I looked at me for changes I could make to improve my life and surroundings, the more 'clicking' that happened in my brain as I embraced those around me. Once I accepted less than perfect (LTP) was healthier thinking, I was able to apply it to others, and clearly see that we are all doing the best we can with what we have - just for today.
Heading out the door to my Saturday AM meeting - make it a great day. We have (hopefully) this weekend of returning winter temperatures, and then spring appears to actually be close - yay!! (((Hugs)))
lookingup said
Apr 7, 2018
thank you Aline for your esh,and thank you IAH for your esh ,
we are truly all Miracles in progress
I love Alanon,
A Spiritual Program .
its truly progress not perfection we seek for,
I'm not there yet ,by working a honest, program ill reach that point one day,
its one day ,hour,minute,sec.at a time......................................................I want to be well,and healthy ,I will arrive there with lots patience,working every day my program ,12 steps,3 daily readings,talking with sponser,prayers daily,meditating,reciteing serenity prayer over n over,etc,etc, to being feeling whole ,healing deep wounds,living life to its fullest.........LU
this writer talks about speaking at a alanon meeting their fears of everything being perfect ,
he or she soon felt right at home,higher power had substituted enough familier ,spontaneous elements so that they could feel completely comfortable,
had found they were just a group of members in the fellowship doing their best to muddle through and lend each other a helping hand,
todays reminder I give thanks for the ways my hp finds to cut my pretentions down to size .when I can laugh a little ,I feel less afraid.
I can so relate here as most can also,always anxious when a special occasion arrives ,soon as I arrive finding its not so scary after all,,
being able to laugh a bit is a big help to me,love this special message.as a reminder we are all human with human ways...............have a great day everybody,,,lu
sorry I didn't make last Saturdays ,my mistake.
I looked like my pets picture here scared frozen..lol
trying to be honest here ,I'm glad I done it ,the daily on my own,,,lu
Arriving @ Al-Anon, and hearing that progress vs. perfection is how it works, I still felt uncertain. I had distorted ideas in my mind that having the right words, knowing the next actions, etc. were signs of greater intelligence and anything 'less' than was a sign of mediocrity. It took me a while of practicing speaking from the heart to feel more comfortable with who I am - an imperfect person. Setting aside all the book smarts I had and the various scripts of how others and I should live, a simpler, one day at a time, aligned with a HP life took shape and remains today for me.
As with most things in recovery, the more I looked at me for changes I could make to improve my life and surroundings, the more 'clicking' that happened in my brain as I embraced those around me. Once I accepted less than perfect (LTP) was healthier thinking, I was able to apply it to others, and clearly see that we are all doing the best we can with what we have - just for today.
Heading out the door to my Saturday AM meeting - make it a great day. We have (hopefully) this weekend of returning winter temperatures, and then spring appears to actually be close - yay!! (((Hugs)))
we are truly all Miracles in progress
I love Alanon,
A Spiritual Program .
its truly progress not perfection we seek for,
I'm not there yet ,by working a honest, program ill reach that point one day,
its one day ,hour,minute,sec.at a time......................................................I want to be well,and healthy ,I will arrive there with lots patience,working every day my program ,12 steps,3 daily readings,talking with sponser,prayers daily,meditating,reciteing serenity prayer over n over,etc,etc, to being feeling whole ,healing deep wounds,living life to its fullest.........LU