So when we last left off- hubby had just gotten arrested for DUI. That was Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. The sheriff's office told me I had to wait for him to have a bond hearing to see how much bond would be and that would not be until Thursday morning. In the meantime, his boss actually called me looking for him and said he does have a job, with conditions. I told him where AH was and why and he understood. Then the head of HR at his job called me and advised me that she had been talking to the Employee Assistance Program and they suggested AH go to inpatient rehab as last year he had done outpatient rehab which obviously didn't work. This HR lady actually seems to really care on a personal level and told me if we didn't have the money to pay up front, let her know and she will help us get it. WOW! Higher Power showing up there! Anyway, so I was online, reading about bonds and found out that I could get him out without a bond hearing. Now, I wanted to let him sit in jail a little longer but the car was impounded and costing $150 a day. My name is not on the title (will have to get that changed) so he was the only one who could get it out. As our finances are entwined and we are kind of short on funds anyway, I needed him to be out of jail. So I bonded him out Wednesday evening. Since then, he has been going to meetings, sometimes even twice a day. He found a lawyer and is dealing with that. The lawyer suggested he not go to rehab before his first court date as the judge looks down on you doing things on your own? I don't know if that is true but I figure this is AH's situation to deal with and decide what he feels is best. He has talked to his boss and signed papers about the situation and is going to the Employee Assistance Program on Tuesday to see what they are requiring him to do to keep his job. He has requested I go with him, for moral support I think so I will accompany him but I am trying to be very hands off in most of this. I am doing a lot of praying and reading right now. Also have gone to another meeting and hoping to get to another one soon. Thank you for all your ESH! I appreciate it.
Iamhere said
Mar 18, 2018
(((Notrub))) - sending you tons of thoughts and prayers....You're doing just fine and I am also sending your AH positive thoughts and prayers.
I ended up in rehab through a nudge from the judge. I am forever grateful to the court process for self, no matter how much it cost me financially and time-wise.
Keep going to meetings and keep leaning in - that's where I pulled my strength from and what saved my marriage, my family, my sanity!! (((Hugs)))
Jerry F said
Mar 18, 2018
Aloha Notrub and welcome to the family. I continue to be amazed at how the disease can control and manipulate so many people including the alcoholic and yet it is with the free will of the alcoholic that they commit to getting and staying sober. I learned from the past that there are so many supportive people for the alcoholic on many levels while the disease continues to take a firm stance saying "No...get away from me"....this of course is and was a part of my own process outside of the door of recovery and I had lots of support for that attitude also.
Cunning Powerful and Baffling is the best description of Alcoholism and drug addiction I have seen.
Keep coming back!! (((hugs)))
hotrod said
Mar 18, 2018
Thanks for the upate Norub Sending positive thougths and prayers for you and the family
PosiesandPuppies said
Mar 19, 2018
Norub - sending prayers that all will work out the way that is best for you!
Your hubby is very lucky to have such a supportive workplace. My husband's workplace had those things in place, but he was only offered 3 days of "treatment" before they let him go permanently!
So when we last left off- hubby had just gotten arrested for DUI. That was Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. The sheriff's office told me I had to wait for him to have a bond hearing to see how much bond would be and that would not be until Thursday morning. In the meantime, his boss actually called me looking for him and said he does have a job, with conditions. I told him where AH was and why and he understood. Then the head of HR at his job called me and advised me that she had been talking to the Employee Assistance Program and they suggested AH go to inpatient rehab as last year he had done outpatient rehab which obviously didn't work. This HR lady actually seems to really care on a personal level and told me if we didn't have the money to pay up front, let her know and she will help us get it. WOW! Higher Power showing up there! Anyway, so I was online, reading about bonds and found out that I could get him out without a bond hearing. Now, I wanted to let him sit in jail a little longer but the car was impounded and costing $150 a day. My name is not on the title (will have to get that changed) so he was the only one who could get it out. As our finances are entwined and we are kind of short on funds anyway, I needed him to be out of jail. So I bonded him out Wednesday evening. Since then, he has been going to meetings, sometimes even twice a day. He found a lawyer and is dealing with that. The lawyer suggested he not go to rehab before his first court date as the judge looks down on you doing things on your own? I don't know if that is true but I figure this is AH's situation to deal with and decide what he feels is best. He has talked to his boss and signed papers about the situation and is going to the Employee Assistance Program on Tuesday to see what they are requiring him to do to keep his job. He has requested I go with him, for moral support I think so I will accompany him but I am trying to be very hands off in most of this. I am doing a lot of praying and reading right now. Also have gone to another meeting and hoping to get to another one soon. Thank you for all your ESH! I appreciate it.
I ended up in rehab through a nudge from the judge. I am forever grateful to the court process for self, no matter how much it cost me financially and time-wise.
Keep going to meetings and keep leaning in - that's where I pulled my strength from and what saved my marriage, my family, my sanity!! (((Hugs)))
Aloha Notrub and welcome to the family. I continue to be amazed at how the disease can control and manipulate so many people including the alcoholic and yet it is with the free will of the alcoholic that they commit to getting and staying sober. I learned from the past that there are so many supportive people for the alcoholic on many levels while the disease continues to take a firm stance saying "No...get away from me"....this of course is and was a part of my own process outside of the door of recovery and I had lots of support for that attitude also.
Cunning Powerful and Baffling is the best description of Alcoholism and drug addiction I have seen.
Keep coming back!! (((hugs)))
Your hubby is very lucky to have such a supportive workplace. My husband's workplace had those things in place, but he was only offered 3 days of "treatment" before they let him go permanently!