I havnt seen my XAH in 2 years. Yet I use Alanon principles everyday. I love and live with a wonderful guy who happens to be a hoarder and has his share of anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. It is a challenging relationship and we have the usual misunderstandings. However, at the beginning we set rules of a sort. We will work things out because we are a team. I will keep vigil and try to retain who i am outside of "us" Things are tricky now because we are trying to straighten out his ownership of house. we want to sell and move but Los angeles  home prices are high and inventory low

im doing alot of work at the local library so our moving plans include me being able to continue with that. I am going to sign up for some coreyoga class. 

Still am much happier than i have been in my life. My guy is a good listener, kind and loving,encouraging too

alyce

YAY Alyce...  This sounds like a winner!!  Keep working it because it sounds like it is working.   ((((hugs)))) 

((Alyce)0 sounds as if  your tools are working I am happy for you