My daughter has a heroin problem,she went to rehab in the spring but because of private insurance she only stayed 12 days she was arrested in October for dui and possession of drugs and parifinala sorry can't spell it the next month arrested again went to her first court hearing the other day and found out she had 2 that day and the second one was with her 35 year old boyfriend who has a 10 year old that his mom is doing an amazing job raising her she's 24 I didn't know about the 2nd arrest until we after her 1st hearing she thinks she can do drugs all she wants because she's going to start methadone soon. Any advice would help greatly

Welcome to MIP Melanie - so glad you found us and glad that you shared. I also am sorry for the pain you are experiencing resulting from the disease of addiction. It's a progressive disease - get's worse and can result in dire consequences if left untreated. Addiction is considered a family disease as almost all who live with or love one with a drug problem/alcohol problem are affected.

I do suggest you try to attend Nar-A-Non or Al-Anon meetings in your area. Local face-to-face meetings helped me understand more about how the disease affects me and gave me a group of people who really understood, unlike most others. We share ESH (Experience, Strength & Hope) with each other and refrain from giving advice. We work the same 12 Steps that others in recovery work, and it's been life-changing for me.

I encourage you to keep coming back here too. You are welcome to work on recovery whether your daughter is in recovery or not. There is hope and help and you are not alone!

Hi Melanie-I understand why you chose "scared" as your screen name. When my alcoholic spouse was drinking and driving, besides for feeling angry, hurt, desperate, hopeless, obsessed, depressed, etc., I also felt scared. God forbid she killed herself or someone else, and she didn't even seem to care. Alanon got me focused on helping myself, as helping her was not possible. And I really tried. Through this program I have found others who understand, and a outlook on life that has helped me become stronger and healthier. My life is far from perfect but I see continual progress with myself, and it has rubbed off on my spouse. She now has about 8 months sober and we see addiction counselors together and separately. I hope you will give Alanon a try, Lyne