Not sure how to deal with this. Hes crying and says he doesn't want to live anymore and hes so sorry that i didnt deserve this.
What can i say or do for him?
pinkchip said
Dec 19, 2017
Ask if he really wants to die. If he says yes, call the police and have him sectioned.
Maresie said
Dec 19, 2017
Ask him to call.a suicide prevention line
hotrod said
Dec 19, 2017
Hi I am sorry you are experiencing this painful result of alcoholism. AA members do make house calls so that contacting AA inter group and asking for a 12 Step visit might help. Good Luck
Jerry F said
Dec 19, 2017
I have seen the suggestion by Betty work and work into long term sobriety. I know from experience. Give them a call. They are in the white pages of your local telephone book and ask if they will send some members out. Also look for the hot line number for The Al-Anon Family Groups and ask them for the meeting places and times that you can make use of. Good luck and keep coming back ....((((hugs))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Tuesday 19th of December 2017 10:51:16 PM
DavidG said
Dec 20, 2017
Sounds like 'rock bottom'. Not a delight for this time of the year.
Alanon the first port of call for the family member- learn to take care of you. ...
The classic AA solution in this situation if 70 meetings in 70 days. And joining the fellowship
In Alanon we are supposed to offer opinions, if asked, but not advise.
Calling 'the authorities' might be an option.
I do not live in the USA. Sticking the family member into a chemical strait jacket... ..."Kicking the bum out' to live a precarious existence on the streets seems to be "The American Way" these days.
Getting your hubby into a treatment centre might be an option. In my country the success rate here is about 5% to 10%. If he has medical insurance, more than likely they will recommend discharge when the money runs out.
This is a nasty, mean, vicious disease... keep talking and keep hoping... all here have been through it too.
DavidG.
PS... i had those symptoms at the age of 8 or 9. Minus the drinking, of course. I wanted and needed to cry- but I learned to hold it back.
I was not a cry-baby- I had every reason the cry and to want to cry.
Being listened to was what I needed the most.
The Alanon and AA programmes do have the solutions- for people who actively seek them.
Both groups work in tandem with health professionals- when this is allowed. It is a work in progress, in my opinion.
-- Edited by DavidG on Wednesday 20th of December 2017 01:14:43 PM
-- Edited by DavidG on Wednesday 20th of December 2017 01:28:55 PM
Jazzie18 said
Dec 20, 2017
So sorry to hear this. I like what Betty suggested. I have done this with my husband before and called a family friend who has been in the program for a long time. I have also called the cops to do a wellness check on my husband when he was staying in a hotel and had made threats to harm himself. That particular situation ended him up in the hospital for the night for an evaluation. At the time it was the worst thing that we had to go through in our marriage but it did bring him one step closer to sobriety as he had to take a hard look at what his life had become with drinking. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Aline said
Dec 20, 2017
Hugs, ((((Carla))))... I have been in a very similar place as you with my ex-abf, and its a terrible place to be. You have received some very good suggestions here, I think... My thoughts go to you and your AH...
Ask him to call.a suicide prevention line
I have seen the suggestion by Betty work and work into long term sobriety. I know from experience. Give them a call. They are in the white pages of your local telephone book and ask if they will send some members out. Also look for the hot line number for The Al-Anon Family Groups and ask them for the meeting places and times that you can make use of. Good luck and keep coming back ....((((hugs))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Tuesday 19th of December 2017 10:51:16 PM
Sounds like 'rock bottom'. Not a delight for this time of the year.
Alanon the first port of call for the family member- learn to take care of you.
...
The classic AA solution in this situation if 70 meetings in 70 days. And joining the fellowship
In Alanon we are supposed to offer opinions, if asked, but not advise.
Calling 'the authorities' might be an option.
I do not live in the USA. Sticking the family member into a chemical strait jacket... ..."Kicking the bum out' to live a precarious existence on the streets seems to be "The American Way" these days.
Getting your hubby into a treatment centre might be an option. In my country the success rate here is about 5% to 10%. If he has medical insurance, more than likely they will recommend discharge when the money runs out.
This is a nasty, mean, vicious disease... keep talking and keep hoping... all here have been through it too.
DavidG.
PS... i had those symptoms at the age of 8 or 9. Minus the drinking, of course. I wanted and needed to cry- but I learned to hold it back.
I was not a cry-baby- I had every reason the cry and to want to cry.
Being listened to was what I needed the most.
The Alanon and AA programmes do have the solutions- for people who actively seek them.
Both groups work in tandem with health professionals- when this is allowed. It is a work in progress, in my opinion.
-- Edited by DavidG on Wednesday 20th of December 2017 01:14:43 PM
-- Edited by DavidG on Wednesday 20th of December 2017 01:28:55 PM