Todays reading is about accepting the work we need to do for ourselves. I understand that many (including me) came to this program thinking it may help fix situations that arose with our qualifiers or even, may help fix our qualifiers! I quickly learned that I had plenty to do in terms of working on my self. The last sentence of the reading summed this up for me: I reached a turning point when I realized who I was hurting when I blamed my past instead of correcting my present.
Its been very easy to get mired in the pastbut not only is it a waste of time to blame the past, there is nothing I can do to change it. In this reading the word smug is used a few times and that resonates with me. I have learned that I am now wary of those who are not accountable for their own actions; for me demonstrating smugness is the very antithesis of accountability and I am wary of that trait in myself. The quotation at the end of the reading is one I will use to check myself on this: Smugness is the very worst sin of all, I believe. No shaft of light can pierce the armor of self-righteousness.
Letting go of self righteousness is letting go of judging. Letting go of Smugness is embracing humility. I will try my best to keep my focus there!
hope everyone enjoys their Sunday :)
Mary
Iamhere said
Nov 19, 2017
Happy Sunday Mary - thanks for the daily, your service and your ESH. I am one who arrived looking for the magic potion or action to fix others around me. It was much easier to blame and shame them for the chaos/insanity I allowed into my mind, heart and life. I truly felt lost when instead I found a program that suggested I needed to work on me, fix what I could in me, heal what I could in me and work on unconditional acceptance of all people, places and things around me....what a tall order - so I thought.
One moment and one day at a time, I became aware of my part. As I kept practicing what was suggested, I accepted my part. I too had to set aside my ego and long-standing habits of looking for 'root cause' and instead stay present and focus on me/what I could change.
I am grateful for the gift of humility and the gift of desperation. My ego, pride and self-will put me at a breaking point that brought me to recovery. While it's been no picnic, it's been life-changing for finding me again as well as true joy and serenity!
I'm so excited for football today - my team had a bye last weekend....make it a lovely day everyone!!
hotrod said
Nov 19, 2017
Good Morning Mary, Thank you for posting this important reminder. Today, know y that I am attending alanon meetings so as to uncover exactly what I am doing that causes pain and suffering my life and the life of others.I came because I was in tremendous pain (I believed was caused by others) and needed help. I am glad I "Kept coming back" and willingly worked the steps and slogans with a sponsor. fortunately, the pain lifted and I do believe as long as I keep coming back I will continue to grow
I know that was not why I first walked through the doors of alanon . When i arrived, I was filled with anger, resentment, pride, judgment, self righteousness and many negative concepts developed after growing up in the disease. I thought myself perfect because I never reflected on myself as I was always looking outward at others.
Thanks for your service and do enjoy this lovely Sunday.
Good morning Everyone-
Todays reading is about accepting the work we need to do for ourselves. I understand that many (including me) came to this program thinking it may help fix situations that arose with our qualifiers or even, may help fix our qualifiers! I quickly learned that I had plenty to do in terms of working on my self. The last sentence of the reading summed this up for me: I reached a turning point when I realized who I was hurting when I blamed my past instead of correcting my present.
Its been very easy to get mired in the pastbut not only is it a waste of time to blame the past, there is nothing I can do to change it. In this reading the word smug is used a few times and that resonates with me. I have learned that I am now wary of those who are not accountable for their own actions; for me demonstrating smugness is the very antithesis of accountability and I am wary of that trait in myself. The quotation at the end of the reading is one I will use to check myself on this: Smugness is the very worst sin of all, I believe. No shaft of light can pierce the armor of self-righteousness.
Letting go of self righteousness is letting go of judging. Letting go of Smugness is embracing humility. I will try my best to keep my focus there!
hope everyone enjoys their Sunday :)
Mary
One moment and one day at a time, I became aware of my part. As I kept practicing what was suggested, I accepted my part. I too had to set aside my ego and long-standing habits of looking for 'root cause' and instead stay present and focus on me/what I could change.
I am grateful for the gift of humility and the gift of desperation. My ego, pride and self-will put me at a breaking point that brought me to recovery. While it's been no picnic, it's been life-changing for finding me again as well as true joy and serenity!
I'm so excited for football today - my team had a bye last weekend....make it a lovely day everyone!!
I know that was not why I first walked through the doors of alanon . When i arrived, I was filled with anger, resentment, pride, judgment, self righteousness and many negative concepts developed after growing up in the disease. I thought myself perfect because I never reflected on myself as I was always looking outward at others.
Thanks for your service and do enjoy this lovely Sunday.