I was let go from my firm yesterday for underperformance. Long story short, I had a lot of deals pending in my pipeline, but nothing was coming in to the firm except a few small accounts and they said it wasn't enough. They gave me 17 weeks to perform to their standards and I didn't meet expectations.
So, I'm trying to take this as a lesson to be learned. You know, the whole, "When one door closes, another one opens." But, I'd be lying if I said it wasn't depressing and demoralizing, as well. What's so frustrating about the whole thing is that I was working hard and I felt that things were finally just starting to turn in my direction. Unfortunately, the firm didn't want to wait around any longer to see if I could actually do so. And, to only give 4 months for someone to bring in over $700K in assets just never seemed realistic to me. But, there are other folks out there in my class who are still employed, but struggling. Another friend of mine in my region also got let go yesterday. But, she knew it was coming and she already has interviews set up.
This was a complete shock to me and to most of my supportive friends in my region. They knew I was working hard and that I was trying. Sigh....I hopefully will soon be able to say, "On to bigger and better things!!"
serenity47 said
Nov 15, 2017
I am sorry to hear about your job loss. It can be demoralizing but the old saying QTIP applies here to perhaps. Allow yourself some time to pause and sit with the feelings then open to the next opportunity. No matter how stressful or what horrible things are going on in my life, I cling to the belief that there is something better ahead for me and for all of us if we can only remain open to receiving it.
hotrod said
Nov 15, 2017
((Andromeda)) I am so sorry to read of this unfortunate development. I find that if I take the time to look at the lessons I received from the events I have endured, I can see that I gained a great deal from even the most difficult situations. Sending positive thoughts your way
Jerry F said
Nov 15, 2017
That has got to be demoralizing!! For me it was when ever I perceived my ego was being trounced. So absolutely grateful I found the program and a Higher Power who I can stand next to and listen and learn. (((Andromeda)))
tiredtonite said
Nov 15, 2017
Andromeda,
I'm sorry you lost your job. It does sound like you are reasoning things out and it's great to hear your pride in your performance even if you didn't meet the goal they set for you. Maybe their demands are unreasonable. Time and experience matter. Just as you are beginning to get the hang of things they say thanks see ya. So many companies lose great people because of their impatience with an employee's inability to hit the ground running. It really becomes their loss because you can take all you've learned with that company and put it into action as a new employee of one of their competitors. You can take what you liked and leave the rest concerning this job. As far as how anyone else you know is progressing, I hope you'll consider that some plain old good luck might be playing a part rather than expertise beyond your own. You'll see, you'll be valued for your perseverence and given reasonable time to succeed in a more reasonable company. (((hugs))) TT
PosiesandPuppies said
Nov 15, 2017
(((Andromeda)))),
Tiredtonight posted almost exactly what I was going to say!! Try not to let you get you down... they may have had unrealistic expectations. I am hoping your period of unemployment will end up being nice and short!
Prayers your way!
Faintly Falling said
Nov 15, 2017
Wow, those targets seem very high alright. I hope you're having some luck with new employment. You never know where that door has just opened for you. Someone will be very lucky to have you to work for them. Hang in there. X
YARNCRAZY said
Nov 15, 2017
lots of hugs to u. i have been in such a job before and also realized that they were 'nutty' to think anyone could meet their expectations. you worked hard,kudos to u and im praying a good company finds and appreciates the hard worker u are
P.S. ...eat some ice cream..lol
andromeda said
Nov 15, 2017
Thank you all for the support. I got super depressed earlier but I assume it will be like this on and off for a while. I've never been fired from a job before for underperformance so i'm definitely beating myself up A LOT right now.
Iamhere said
Nov 15, 2017
(((andromeda))) - so, so sorry to hear this. Take good care of you and lean into your recovery. I am sending you tons of (((hugs))), prayers and positive energies!!
WestMan said
Nov 16, 2017
Hi Andromeda. I'm sorry for the negative feelings this has brought about. Working hard at something only to be told it isn't enough is difficult and really unfair. I think you are keeping the right attitude. Looking for where the opportunities may be in this is a great idea.
2HP said
Nov 16, 2017
I'm so sorry, this must really hurt (((hugs)))
I'm reminded of a story in our literature which helps when I cant make sense of outcomes... about the little dog wanting, wanting, wanting to go outside... but the owner couldn't let him that day because it wasn't safe for him to be out there due to the dangers of nearby construction. Unfortunately, there was no way for the little dog to know the reason!
I have been there, and I encourage you above all, to befriend yourself right now. Trust this outcome, trust yourself, trust trust TRUST that the Good stuff is still coming. Trust that the rejection was for your protection... or trust that the universe needs your service in another direction.... trust there is a perfect reason.
(It's hard sometimes, I know... my sponsor used to say, " just practice....." )
(((big hugs)))
andromeda said
Nov 16, 2017
Thanks 2HP.......I appreciate it. I am starting to beat myself up for not working smarter or harder at this point. Trying to nitpick what I did wrong and where I went wrong. Days when I was lazy and just allowed myself to NOT do what needed to be done. I lacked motivation at times. I quit early in the day when it was 110 degrees outside and I would mentally and physically shut down. I got wrapped up the wrong things and allowed myself to get distracted from the goal. I think that's what's bugging me the most right now. Knowing that I probably could have done better.....but I didn't.
SerenityRUS said
Nov 17, 2017
Would have could have should have doesn't mean anything .. there's no rewriting the past. Just keep on keeping on .. it's the best anyone has and if you learned something then good on you. Hugs.
1911A1 said
Nov 18, 2017
I'm sorry that you lost your job. Please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve the loss. But I encourage you to not second-guess yourself. Wait until the emotions aren't quite so raw as they are now, and that's when you'll be open to HP showing you the true lessons to be learned.
Speaking for myself, I stayed for far too long in an abusive work situation that was similar to being in an alcoholic relationship (in fact, my immediate supervisor WAS alcoholic). Thanks to the things I've learned in the program, I was finally able to say that I deserved better, I executed a long-term plan to make things better, and now I am thriving in a completely different career that it turns out I was born to do.
I wish the same for you.
LinSC said
Nov 18, 2017
Be your own best friend Andromeda. What would your best friend say to you "ok so you made some mistakes".... learn and move on. You now have time to re-think things, are you on the fast lane....but you are really more of an organic and down to earth person. Its a good time to ask some questions.
I am sending prayers for you, and hope you find your next door when you are ready.
Linsc
a4l said
Nov 18, 2017
Something will turn up my friend. Keep the faith and keep on keeping on.
andromeda said
Nov 20, 2017
Thanks everyone for your support. I'm amazed at how time consuming this looking for a job, filing for unemployment, fixing my resume, contacting headhunters, editing my LinkedIn profile, etc can be......I feel like I'm working harder now than I did before, go figure!
I'm hanging in there. With the holidays, though, I am uncertain as to how much people are hiring or not. But, there seems to be jobs out there and I'll just need to find the one that's a right fit for me. I'm working very hard at not losing patience with myself or with those around me.
Iamhere said
Nov 20, 2017
(((andromeda))) - sending you tons of hugs, love, positive energy and support! You got this! I believe you that the search is harder than working....I do remember that feeling - be gentle with you and trust your heart, program and HP!
a4l said
Nov 20, 2017
Also sending positive thoughts. It's so hard to keep the faith when a lot of external values are based on work. Assetts and gratitude lists really helped me to get through hard times of which I anticipate more to come, as that's life. You seem really organised and nurturing. Is there maybe another role that's nudging at the door? Might you now have time to consider more of what you feel called to do? For me, when I left, I found myself writing a 3000 word piece out of the blue on something I cared about it. That reminded me of the part of me I'd actively suppressed because as a sahm subtly I'd accepted a bunch of other peoples thoughts.
The point to which is just, don't forget all the wonderful skills you have which are still there and still wonderful even if the job is not there yet. On the plus side of not being in that last job, if you give yourself permission, this could be an opportunity to reflect a bit on what you want to offer the world with your own unique skills and what you want in return.
All the power to you. This is just one more chapter in the book of life, not the whole book.
el-cee said
Nov 21, 2017
Thats a hard one, sorry. I keep thinking recently how if Im in Gods will then Im being directed to what is good for me even if I have no idea what that is and if it feels uncomfortable but trusting in this being for the ultimate good is comforting to me.x
mamalioness said
Nov 21, 2017
Hey Andromeda, I, too, agree with Tiredtonight...Can't add much more to her wisdom, except to say that job loss is a very traumatic thing..up there with divorce/separation, so don't deny your feelings, but I do hope you #1, find a better job FAST and #2, what THEY think of your performance is their issue, not yours..Sounds like you did your best, but the JOB was not a fit....it happens...I've lost jobs due to the stupidest things and yea, in the old days I took it personal..Not anymore...I got "fired" last year by a client (I work freelance) who said I had too much trouble getting into the office, hence attendance was sub-par.......Yea, well., have SOMEBODY THERE to let me in and maybe that would cure the problem..His little sister showed up late or didn't show and I would have to drive back home because they didn't give me a key to get in.....I was sorry to lose a friendly, easy atmospheric place, but not at all "down on me" over it...Not every place to work is a fit!!!! sending you "job finding" mojo....
andromeda said
Nov 21, 2017
I know it's all part of God's plan for me. My bf is more upset than I am at times. He met with one of my clients yesterday and he said that, after meeting with her, that he realized just how good I was at listening to people, at being patient with them (she's quite a talker), and at exposing other opportunities for assets (she had a 200K annuity that she never revealed to her other advisor but told me about a few weeks ago). He came home venting about how, if the company had just given me a few more months, that I would have been wildly successful. He said he's still in shock.
Honestly, the man has been my biggest cheerleader. He knows that I'll be OK in the end. He praises me for all my good qualities and it's been wonderful having him around supporting me emotionally, etc. What's funny is that I never really saw him as emotionally supportive but when it comes to the big stuff in life, he definitely steps up and is there for you. And, my son has been supportive as well and is going to try working a few more hours each week so that he can pay for his cell phone bill. He makes good money but doesn't work very many hours right now but once finals are over next month he can work more. So, all in all, things are actually good. I just wish I didn't feel like I had to take a job just because I need the income. I would love to find the right job that just fits me and my personality best. But, unemployment isn't going to help me pay the bills, that's for sure, lol! Sigh.....just turning it over to HP and doing my best to let go of the outcome.
Iamhere said
Nov 21, 2017
(((Andromeda))) - I love that those around you are stepping up in support and you are seeing/feeling it. There is this part of me still that when things go south, I feel like isolating is a 'good thing' and I must resolve alone. I am grateful that I am learning in recovery to ask others for help and accept it when I need it!
You got this - even if the next job isn't the best job - it's all good. I also believe there is a master plan which I am not privy to. Sending you more positive thoughts and prayers! Find me if you need/want to! (((Hugs)))
a4l said
Nov 21, 2017
Support and talent plus perseverance, sounds like a winning combination to me. In between times are the hardest. Keep on keeping on.
I was let go from my firm yesterday for underperformance. Long story short, I had a lot of deals pending in my pipeline, but nothing was coming in to the firm except a few small accounts and they said it wasn't enough. They gave me 17 weeks to perform to their standards and I didn't meet expectations.
So, I'm trying to take this as a lesson to be learned. You know, the whole, "When one door closes, another one opens." But, I'd be lying if I said it wasn't depressing and demoralizing, as well. What's so frustrating about the whole thing is that I was working hard and I felt that things were finally just starting to turn in my direction. Unfortunately, the firm didn't want to wait around any longer to see if I could actually do so. And, to only give 4 months for someone to bring in over $700K in assets just never seemed realistic to me. But, there are other folks out there in my class who are still employed, but struggling. Another friend of mine in my region also got let go yesterday. But, she knew it was coming and she already has interviews set up.
This was a complete shock to me and to most of my supportive friends in my region. They knew I was working hard and that I was trying. Sigh....I hopefully will soon be able to say, "On to bigger and better things!!"
That has got to be demoralizing!! For me it was when ever I perceived my ego was being trounced. So absolutely grateful I found the program and a Higher Power who I can stand next to and listen and learn. (((Andromeda)))
Andromeda,
I'm sorry you lost your job. It does sound like you are reasoning things out and it's great to hear your pride in your performance even if you didn't meet the goal they set for you. Maybe their demands are unreasonable. Time and experience matter. Just as you are beginning to get the hang of things they say thanks see ya. So many companies lose great people because of their impatience with an employee's inability to hit the ground running. It really becomes their loss because you can take all you've learned with that company and put it into action as a new employee of one of their competitors. You can take what you liked and leave the rest concerning this job. As far as how anyone else you know is progressing, I hope you'll consider that some plain old good luck might be playing a part rather than expertise beyond your own. You'll see, you'll be valued for your perseverence and given reasonable time to succeed in a more reasonable company. (((hugs))) TT
Tiredtonight posted almost exactly what I was going to say!! Try not to let you get you down... they may have had unrealistic expectations. I am hoping your period of unemployment will end up being nice and short!
Prayers your way!
P.S. ...eat some ice cream..lol
Hi Andromeda. I'm sorry for the negative feelings this has brought about. Working hard at something only to be told it isn't enough is difficult and really unfair. I think you are keeping the right attitude. Looking for where the opportunities may be in this is a great idea.
I'm reminded of a story in our literature which helps when I cant make sense of outcomes... about the little dog wanting, wanting, wanting to go outside... but the owner couldn't let him that day because it wasn't safe for him to be out there due to the dangers of nearby construction. Unfortunately, there was no way for the little dog to know the reason!
I have been there, and I encourage you above all, to befriend yourself right now. Trust this outcome, trust yourself, trust trust TRUST that the Good stuff is still coming. Trust that the rejection was for your protection... or trust that the universe needs your service in another direction.... trust there is a perfect reason.
(It's hard sometimes, I know... my sponsor used to say, " just practice....." )
(((big hugs)))
Speaking for myself, I stayed for far too long in an abusive work situation that was similar to being in an alcoholic relationship (in fact, my immediate supervisor WAS alcoholic). Thanks to the things I've learned in the program, I was finally able to say that I deserved better, I executed a long-term plan to make things better, and now I am thriving in a completely different career that it turns out I was born to do.
I wish the same for you.
Be your own best friend Andromeda. What would your best friend say to you "ok so you made some mistakes".... learn and move on. You now have time to re-think things, are you on the fast lane....but you are really more of an organic and down to earth person. Its a good time to ask some questions.
I am sending prayers for you, and hope you find your next door when you are ready.
Linsc
I'm hanging in there. With the holidays, though, I am uncertain as to how much people are hiring or not. But, there seems to be jobs out there and I'll just need to find the one that's a right fit for me. I'm working very hard at not losing patience with myself or with those around me.
Hey Andromeda, I, too, agree with Tiredtonight...Can't add much more to her wisdom, except to say that job loss is a very traumatic thing..up there with divorce/separation, so don't deny your feelings, but I do hope you #1, find a better job FAST and #2, what THEY think of your performance is their issue, not yours..Sounds like you did your best, but the JOB was not a fit....it happens...I've lost jobs due to the stupidest things and yea, in the old days I took it personal..Not anymore...I got "fired" last year by a client (I work freelance) who said I had too much trouble getting into the office, hence attendance was sub-par.......Yea, well., have SOMEBODY THERE to let me in and maybe that would cure the problem..His little sister showed up late or didn't show and I would have to drive back home because they didn't give me a key to get in.....I was sorry to lose a friendly, easy atmospheric place, but not at all "down on me" over it...Not every place to work is a fit!!!! sending you "job finding" mojo....
Honestly, the man has been my biggest cheerleader. He knows that I'll be OK in the end. He praises me for all my good qualities and it's been wonderful having him around supporting me emotionally, etc. What's funny is that I never really saw him as emotionally supportive but when it comes to the big stuff in life, he definitely steps up and is there for you. And, my son has been supportive as well and is going to try working a few more hours each week so that he can pay for his cell phone bill. He makes good money but doesn't work very many hours right now but once finals are over next month he can work more. So, all in all, things are actually good. I just wish I didn't feel like I had to take a job just because I need the income. I would love to find the right job that just fits me and my personality best. But, unemployment isn't going to help me pay the bills, that's for sure, lol! Sigh.....just turning it over to HP and doing my best to let go of the outcome.
You got this - even if the next job isn't the best job - it's all good. I also believe there is a master plan which I am not privy to. Sending you more positive thoughts and prayers! Find me if you need/want to! (((Hugs)))