Those simple words were not what I wanted to hear when I arrived here looking for ways to save my daughter.  I wanted answers, solutions, quick fixes etc and there was none.  As a mother that was hard to accept.  I had forgotten how to let go and focus on myself.  .  I had invested so much of myself in raising my children that I took it all rather personally when things did not turn out as I had planned.  With the help of al anon I have been able to come to a place of acceptance and just be and let others be as well without trying to exert my control or give advice.  It is very freeing.  I can be okay whether she  chooses sobriety or not.  Of course it is not easy and I can quickly fall back into the mother manager role if I allow myself to but just for today things are good.  My daughter continues to work her recovery program and is doing well as far as I know. I continue to work mine and our relationship is improving daily.  I am forever grateful for the guidance I have received here. 

I read this today and it was just what I needed to read, there is hope. Im so happy you managed to use the tools and do what is right for you and your family. It is a battle and one that im destined to fight too, my son is still in denial, no recovery and of course it reaches crisis then dies down and on and on it goes. Im so grateful to lean on this program and know and accept Im powerless. I was listening to an AA speaker recently and they said something that was so hopeful to me, they said that alcoholism is the only disease where the person can be better off than when they first came from. A nice thought and I keep thinking maybe, just maybe my son and all the sons and daughters are on a journey where yes they are brought to their knees but the journey up is amazing and such a gift it almost makes the horrible journey worth it. Thank you.x

((Serenity)) Thanks for this powerful share.   Program does work when we work it and it is clear you have been working it