She is our grand-daughter in law and she is in Hilo for a visit and she is a beauty and the mother of 3 stunningly beautiful great-grand children and she is a daughter of an alcoholic and the wife of the son of an alcoholic/addict and she loves to drink and ....get drunk. My heart is whimpering again as it did when I was married to my very own alcoholic/addict wife. Dear God here is another one I am powerless over that I am leaving on your door step and praying you will take her in along with the family connect to her. She put a facebook Utube clip of last nights party with her sisters and cousins and my heart still whimpers. My wife and I still know the old thoughts, feelings and behaviors and are sitting within program. We are powerless. Thoughts and prayers are appreciated. (((((hugs)))))
mamalioness said
Aug 26, 2017
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Jerry)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) my good recovery brother......I cry with you...your love for her is heart rending....To love someone who is drinking/doing poison is torture...I am so sorry you are going through this, but I have faith in your strong program and dedication to doing the next, immediate right thing by you to maintain your emotional sobriety..........I am sending you love and peace and comfort in this......Gr8ful you are here and you have mine and your other family members to support you.........ALWAYS in support, HUGS, rosie.....
shrnp said
Aug 26, 2017
I am sorry Jerrry, alcoholism touches everyone. Sending positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
El said
Aug 26, 2017
So, so sorry, Jerry. Heartbreaking for sure! I loathe this disease and although I am grateful for technology that brings us together, I also loathe the glamorization of sites like Facebook, Snapchat, etc,. Thoughts and prayers to you.
Ellen
Jill said
Aug 26, 2017
With you, Jerry, turning them over to their HP and praying for comfort for all.
There is strength in you knowing the first step.
hotrod said
Aug 26, 2017
((Jerry)) Prayers on the way
Aline said
Aug 27, 2017
Prayers your way, ((((Jerry)))).
milkwood said
Aug 27, 2017
Prayers for your beautiful hearts ((((((((((Jerry))))))))))
Your love shines through and I am happily sending my acceptance for your beautiful great daughter in law, connecting all the way from Italy to your Pacific islands. Wow, what a powerful thought!
tiredtonite said
Aug 27, 2017
(((Jerry)))) Prayers for you and your family. TT
pinkchip said
Aug 27, 2017
Prayers Jerry. I know, as do you from being an alcoholic and living that life that alcoholics attract other alcoholics. Add genetic influences and then you have people living in a alcoholic, disease filled, high drama home. In my drinking I picked other drunks to be with and my life was so limited and self sabotaging. It sucks to see others stuck where we once were knowing there is a solution....especially family.
Iamhere said
Aug 27, 2017
Oh my brother Jerry - I am sending thoughts and prayers your way....I feel what you are feeling and understand how much your heart hurts. I am reminded often - more often than desired - how this disease damages, ruins, kills loved ones and friends. I am reminded how powerless I am in these situations yet am also reminded, as you have been, that there is a power greater than us who can restore sanity in those who want a different life.
Sending you special (((hugs))) today and hope you have found a sweet serenity spot, just for today!
Bo said
Aug 27, 2017
Jerry -- I am so sorry you are going through this and feeling the pain, concern, and so much more. That intellectual grasp of acceptance and powerless sometimes just doesn't seem enough for us to be OK. No rationalizing, no common sense, sometimes it seems like nothing helps. For me, that was when I had to dig down deep and work harder -- on acceptance. For me, it was like watching a horror movie -- and I know how it ends and how ugly and terrible it will be -- and the worst part is that it is real life, right in front of me. I had to surrender to it -- and feel it -- and then try to get past it and let it go. I was powerless over feeling what I was feeling.
When facing this -- I stepped it up! Everything. My readings, my meetings and my phone calls. I spoke with and met with my sponsor more often.
I feel for you Jerry. All of my thoughts and prayers are with you. We are here for you.
el-cee said
Aug 27, 2017
Its sad just plain and simple to me when we see it in our young people. Then I have to think of how it was the pain of this disease that led me to alanon and that changed my life. What if the disease takes our family members towards this spiritual way of living? There's always hope x
Jerry F said
Aug 27, 2017
I'm praying to let go and not going back to face book to see that last entry she put up. What's my point? I am p o w e r l e s s. geez
wp said
Sep 3, 2017
Jerry, Sending the Serenity Prayer to you and yours. I can't add a lot to what the others have said in wisdom, but saying the prayer for myself and again for the A can be a help to letting go and letting God. I'm sorry for your pain. wp
She is our grand-daughter in law and she is in Hilo for a visit and she is a beauty and the mother of 3 stunningly beautiful great-grand children and she is a daughter of an alcoholic and the wife of the son of an alcoholic/addict and she loves to drink and ....get drunk. My heart is whimpering again as it did when I was married to my very own alcoholic/addict wife. Dear God here is another one I am powerless over that I am leaving on your door step and praying you will take her in along with the family connect to her. She put a facebook Utube clip of last nights party with her sisters and cousins and my heart still whimpers. My wife and I still know the old thoughts, feelings and behaviors and are sitting within program. We are powerless. Thoughts and prayers are appreciated. (((((hugs)))))
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Jerry)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) my good recovery brother......I cry with you...your love for her is heart rending....To love someone who is drinking/doing poison is torture...I am so sorry you are going through this, but I have faith in your strong program and dedication to doing the next, immediate right thing by you to maintain your emotional sobriety..........I am sending you love and peace and comfort in this......Gr8ful you are here and you have mine and your other family members to support you.........ALWAYS in support, HUGS, rosie.....
So, so sorry, Jerry. Heartbreaking for sure! I loathe this disease and although I am grateful for technology that brings us together, I also loathe the glamorization of sites like Facebook, Snapchat, etc,. Thoughts and prayers to you.
Ellen
There is strength in you knowing the first step.
Your love shines through and I am happily sending my acceptance for your beautiful great daughter in law, connecting all the way from Italy to your Pacific islands. Wow, what a powerful thought!
(((Jerry)))) Prayers for you and your family. TT
Sending you special (((hugs))) today and hope you have found a sweet serenity spot, just for today!
Jerry -- I am so sorry you are going through this and feeling the pain, concern, and so much more. That intellectual grasp of acceptance and powerless sometimes just doesn't seem enough for us to be OK. No rationalizing, no common sense, sometimes it seems like nothing helps. For me, that was when I had to dig down deep and work harder -- on acceptance. For me, it was like watching a horror movie -- and I know how it ends and how ugly and terrible it will be -- and the worst part is that it is real life, right in front of me. I had to surrender to it -- and feel it -- and then try to get past it and let it go. I was powerless over feeling what I was feeling.
When facing this -- I stepped it up! Everything. My readings, my meetings and my phone calls. I spoke with and met with my sponsor more often.
I feel for you Jerry. All of my thoughts and prayers are with you. We are here for you.
I'm praying to let go and not going back to face book to see that last entry she put up. What's my point? I am p o w e r l e s s. geez