With a heavy heart, I share that one of my gal pals who attends our Saturday morning meeting opted out of the meeting this past Saturday, and instead ended her life. We are shocked and grieving as she was a lovely spirit and a gentle soul.
I ask that any who feel compelled to pray for those suffering with this disease, directly or indirectly. This is not the first I have known who felt they could no longer drink, and could not live without the option. May God have mercy on her soul and bring peace in grieving for her family.
I am blessed to have known her and realize deeply that no matter how much we think we know and love another, we rarely know the demons they are dealing with...
Thanks for listening!
hotrod said
Aug 21, 2017
((IAH))) I am so sorry to read of the loss of your friend . Sending prayers for your peace and that your friend has found peace at last. This is indeed a dreadful disease.
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:51:22 AM
serenity47 said
Aug 21, 2017
I am sorry for the loss of your friend. A prayer has been sent for her and her family that they may all find peace.
Jerry F said
Aug 21, 2017
Dearest Sister...I hold you to my heart and your friend to my spirit asking my Higher Power to help her feel our compassion and empathy. Alcoholic death is a gentle walk as it anesthetizes our pain while taking us away from our journey. I remember hearing only the voice of my HP during that hour and it was gentle and caring. I will offer my prayer to HP for her and for you and for all of us demeaned by our disease. (((((hugs)))))
Bo said
Aug 22, 2017
I am so very sorry for your loss. My warmest thoughts and wishes go out to you, and all of her friends, and your friends who knew her. Some of us here have lost friends from program -- and they are special friends -- so we certainly have felt what you are feeling. Your attitude sounds good, it sounds healthy. I absolutely admire and respect that you are feeling and able to look at positive, good things -- feeling blessed to have known her, having compassion for her and her family, and grieving the loss of a friend.
Thank you, and I wish you all the best, for health and happiness.
yanksfan51 said
Aug 22, 2017
(((IAH)))
so sorry about the loss of your friend. Praying for you, your friend and family.
Mary
El said
Aug 22, 2017
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. Prayers to you and all who suffers her loss.
_bunny_ said
Aug 22, 2017
(((Iamhere))) I'm sending prayers your way and to all who are suffering.
andromeda said
Aug 22, 2017
Oh I am so sorry to hear this. This disease angers and saddens me at every turn. Will be praying for you and those who are mourning the loss of her life. HUGS my friend.
tiredtonite said
Aug 22, 2017
I'm so sorry for the loss of your cherished friend and meeting member. Sending prayers for her and to all who loved her. I wish you peace and healing. (((iamhere))) TT
Iamhere said
Aug 22, 2017
Thank you all...I am still sad but very distracted....we had epic record setting flooding again last night (twice in 1.5 months) so I have a wet basement at my rental home. I have added mad to my emotions as my AH (for an unknown, but I am sure smart at the time) disconnected the sub pump outside pipe from the french drain. What this means is when I arrived to see if there was water in the basement, there was a small pond/lake between my home and the 89 year old widow's home....***sigh***
I had to reconnect the piping while it was running so looked like a drowned rat after! And yes - there is water in the basement, however I believe it's from this 'oopsie' as that wall is still wet. I am not for sure where it came in and it really doesn't matter but I had done some work to waterproof it and don't yet know if it's effective because of this mishap.
Thank goodness for the program - a part of me truly wanted to drive back to my house and just slap the crud right out of him. Yet, I know that EVEN THOUGH I AM ANGRY, it's already in the past and nothing I say/do/think will change it.
I am grateful to be resourceful enough to pump out water, dry out the basement and remove wet drywall. I am grateful to be calm enough to take action instead of reacting. And, I am grateful to have a distraction from the loss of my friend. I am wondering what in the world my HP wants me to learn but remain open....even though I am sad and angry.
Life happens - it's what I do that helps me to see where I am in my recovery. (((Hugs))) to all - I truly appreciate the prayers and support.
PosiesandPuppies said
Aug 22, 2017
iamhere - sending you support, and I lift prayers to the heavens for your friend. This is truly a devastating disease.
milkwood said
Aug 22, 2017
May I just say that I believe you to be a remarkable, priceless human being Iamhere, full of grace and yet so capable as well!
Sending prayers and peace for your friend, and for you and your family as well.
Jerry F said
Aug 22, 2017
Part of your decision making maybe the awareness that if you slap the crud out of him you will also find the need to clean that up also along with the flood water. Damned if you do and double Damned if you don't. Choices, Choices, Choices....((((hugs))))
Sorcha said
Aug 22, 2017
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Iamhere. Alcoholism is such a destructive disease. Bless your friend and her family and friends.
Aline said
Aug 22, 2017
Hugs, (((IAH))), I'm sorry for your loss...
Bethany66 said
Aug 22, 2017
So sorry for your loss and so sorry to lose another dear one to this dreadful disease.
Iamhere said
Aug 22, 2017
Thanks all - I truly appreciate the support....I must admit Jerry - I got a chuckle because you are so spot on. I have truly had a long spell of serenity and then the suicide made me really sad. And then the mishap with the sub pump draining made me really want to rage. I had to push the pause button and have a quick conversation with my HP.
Basement is drying and I am extremely tired. Grateful I have the freedom to relax and just be this evening...(((Hugs))) to all!
hotrod said
Aug 22, 2017
((IAH)) I do so understand flooded basements are not fun. Glad that you re using your program tools . Sending warm thoughts and prayers your way.
Junenine said
Aug 22, 2017
(((Iamhere))) i am so very sorry for your loss. just heartbreaking.
and really, more power to you and much admiration on handling all the business at hand in front of you right now.
sending big hugs and great sympathy.
bud said
Aug 22, 2017
((((Iamhere)))))) I'm so sorry. Sending prayers for comfort and peace.
Iamhere said
Aug 22, 2017
I thank all for the support. The news is reporting more than 160 water rescues today and one person lost their life...I am fortunate that we just had some flooding in the yard and water in the basement. Grateful to be heading to bed shortly. Stay safe to the East - it's heading that way next...
Jerry F said
Aug 22, 2017
((((((hugs))))))
YARNCRAZY said
Aug 22, 2017
sorry for the loss of your friend,,,hugs for u
jitsuka said
Aug 23, 2017
(((Iamhere)))
gratefulforafuture said
Aug 23, 2017
Iamhere,
The crazy blessing about something like a flooded basement is that it certainly keeps you in the present! You have to deal with the emergency and wipe other issues out of your mind. Is there any chance that this worked?
Thinking of you and the loss of your friend. Beth
Iamhere said
Aug 23, 2017
(((Hugs))) Beth - yes....it did work! I truly had to accept the day for what it was and it did keep me mindful of what is vs. what is not!
SerenityRUS said
Aug 28, 2017
Big Hugs,
I am so sorry for your loss and that of your recovery families loss. It truly is a cunning, powerful and baffling disease. There is nothing about it that makes any kind of sense.
Hugs S
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:51:42 AM
Iamhere said
Aug 28, 2017
Thanks girl....we did discuss it Saturday and collectively prayed that she's free now from that which haunted her here on Earth...(((Hugs)))
DavidG said
Aug 28, 2017
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( I Am ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I do wish we could win 'em all. I always give it my best shot. Its all we can do... love is the answer... but for some people is comes too late. ...
Iamhere said
Aug 28, 2017
(((David))) - truer words were never spoken my friend....
I will say that I had to have a discussion with my sponsor. I searched high/low for an obituary as I wanted to pay my respects. I finally found one - it was a one liner with a photo that had to be 25+ years old....no mention of family, present or past - just a basic sentence that said she had passed away on a Saturday in August of this year. No service. No write-up. Nothing.
I had an instant resentment for the family ASSuming they were ashamed because of her struggles, her disease, etc. Of course, my sponsor suggested I really didn't know them or was not inside their head and they may be more shocked than us which led them to announce what they could and that's what they did.
So grateful for recovery, sponsors and the gift of calm when I am in need...We will miss her dearly and her legacy will live on in our hearts/group!
MizzB said
Aug 30, 2017
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you manage to get through this difficult time and find some meaning to this.
wifeofalcoholic said
Aug 31, 2017
I am praying for you and your loss and for your friend's family.
With a heavy heart, I share that one of my gal pals who attends our Saturday morning meeting opted out of the meeting this past Saturday, and instead ended her life. We are shocked and grieving as she was a lovely spirit and a gentle soul.
I ask that any who feel compelled to pray for those suffering with this disease, directly or indirectly. This is not the first I have known who felt they could no longer drink, and could not live without the option. May God have mercy on her soul and bring peace in grieving for her family.
I am blessed to have known her and realize deeply that no matter how much we think we know and love another, we rarely know the demons they are dealing with...
Thanks for listening!
((IAH))) I am so sorry to read of the loss of your friend . Sending prayers for your peace and that your friend has found peace at last. This is indeed a dreadful disease.
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:51:22 AM
Dearest Sister...I hold you to my heart and your friend to my spirit asking my Higher Power to help her feel our compassion and empathy. Alcoholic death is a gentle walk as it anesthetizes our pain while taking us away from our journey. I remember hearing only the voice of my HP during that hour and it was gentle and caring. I will offer my prayer to HP for her and for you and for all of us demeaned by our disease. (((((hugs)))))
I am so very sorry for your loss. My warmest thoughts and wishes go out to you, and all of her friends, and your friends who knew her. Some of us here have lost friends from program -- and they are special friends -- so we certainly have felt what you are feeling. Your attitude sounds good, it sounds healthy. I absolutely admire and respect that you are feeling and able to look at positive, good things -- feeling blessed to have known her, having compassion for her and her family, and grieving the loss of a friend.
Thank you, and I wish you all the best, for health and happiness.
(((IAH)))
so sorry about the loss of your friend. Praying for you, your friend and family.
Mary
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. Prayers to you and all who suffers her loss.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your cherished friend and meeting member. Sending prayers for her and to all who loved her. I wish you peace and healing. (((iamhere))) TT
I had to reconnect the piping while it was running so looked like a drowned rat after! And yes - there is water in the basement, however I believe it's from this 'oopsie' as that wall is still wet. I am not for sure where it came in and it really doesn't matter but I had done some work to waterproof it and don't yet know if it's effective because of this mishap.
Thank goodness for the program - a part of me truly wanted to drive back to my house and just slap the crud right out of him. Yet, I know that EVEN THOUGH I AM ANGRY, it's already in the past and nothing I say/do/think will change it.
I am grateful to be resourceful enough to pump out water, dry out the basement and remove wet drywall. I am grateful to be calm enough to take action instead of reacting. And, I am grateful to have a distraction from the loss of my friend. I am wondering what in the world my HP wants me to learn but remain open....even though I am sad and angry.
Life happens - it's what I do that helps me to see where I am in my recovery. (((Hugs))) to all - I truly appreciate the prayers and support.
Sending prayers and peace for your friend, and for you and your family as well.
Part of your decision making maybe the awareness that if you slap the crud out of him you will also find the need to clean that up also along with the flood water. Damned if you do and double Damned if you don't. Choices, Choices, Choices....((((hugs))))
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Iamhere. Alcoholism is such a destructive disease. Bless your friend and her family and friends.
Basement is drying and I am extremely tired. Grateful I have the freedom to relax and just be this evening...(((Hugs))) to all!
(((Iamhere))) i am so very sorry for your loss. just heartbreaking.
and really, more power to you and much admiration on handling all the business at hand in front of you right now.
sending big hugs and great sympathy.
((((((hugs))))))
Iamhere,
The crazy blessing about something like a flooded basement is that it certainly keeps you in the present! You have to deal with the emergency and wipe other issues out of your mind. Is there any chance that this worked?
Thinking of you and the loss of your friend. Beth
Big Hugs,
I am so sorry for your loss and that of your recovery families loss. It truly is a cunning, powerful and baffling disease. There is nothing about it that makes any kind of sense.
Hugs S
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:51:42 AM
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( I Am ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I do wish we could win 'em all. I always give it my best shot. Its all we can do... love is the answer... but for some people is comes too late.
...
I will say that I had to have a discussion with my sponsor. I searched high/low for an obituary as I wanted to pay my respects. I finally found one - it was a one liner with a photo that had to be 25+ years old....no mention of family, present or past - just a basic sentence that said she had passed away on a Saturday in August of this year. No service. No write-up. Nothing.
I had an instant resentment for the family ASSuming they were ashamed because of her struggles, her disease, etc. Of course, my sponsor suggested I really didn't know them or was not inside their head and they may be more shocked than us which led them to announce what they could and that's what they did.
So grateful for recovery, sponsors and the gift of calm when I am in need...We will miss her dearly and her legacy will live on in our hearts/group!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you manage to get through this difficult time and find some meaning to this.