Hello all. Thank you for giving me the oppurtunity to join this group. I am brand new to it. I guess I wil just come out and say that I live with an alcoholic brother and can be very abusive sometimes. Im at the point of having to make moving decisions because of it. I dont want to move away from my elderly mom and am afraid for her but others keep telling me that my safety is #1. Has anybody else been through something like this? I have tried to help my brother in many different ways but Im the one that keeps getting hurt back in many different ways. Please and thank you. Have a blessed evening.

Thank you Jerry. I need help right now and to gain the strength to help my elderly mother. I hope I can find the support to do this.

Welcome to MIP Staci - glad you found us and glad that you shared. Alcoholism is a disease which is progressive and powerful. Al-Anon is recovery for those family/friends who are affected by the disease in another. We share ESH (Experience, Strength & Hope) with each other to help heal/deal with the disease and diseased.

I would agree that your safety and the safety of your mother is of great importance. We do not give advice, with exception to abusive situations. I would certainly seek out Al-Anon meetings in your area for support for you. For the safety of your home, I would research any/all resources that might be available in your city, county, state, etc. for like situations.

Know that you are not alone and there is hope and help in recovery. Keep coming back - glad you are here!

Staci, glad you found us. I grew up with an abusive brother and was not protected by my parents. It left deep scars of fear, insecurity, not feeling safe, no self-esteem, so I know the damage this kind or relationship does. And every boyfriend/spouse I have had is addicted, so the effects of his rage set me up for being abused. With Alanon I am getting stronger and healthier. I know that my Face to Face meeting helps me tremendously , as does the board, because I am not alone and others understand. I have also worked with a sponsor which moved me along also. Keep coming back! Lyne

Welcome, Staci, so glad you are here

The disease of alcoholism is truly cunning, baffling, and powerful. When I tried to figure it out and determine my best course on my own, I struggled mightily, as with nothing I had before. AlAnon helped me tremendously.

You are not alone in this struggle, thanks for joining us

Thank you all for sharing. This is not my first rodeo and alcholism is an ugly disease. Im in the process of moving but not for 6 months or so. Considering a shelter also. I live in a very high crime rate city and thats all Im concerened about right now is my safety. As I keep myself locked up in my bedroom alot. But, Im ok when I do that. Again, thank you all for your kind words and concern. Everybody has a story and if anybody needs my support then I am here too. You all are kind people. Especially to have experienced this same issue among us and to understand each other. Love, light & happiness. Staci.

I like yall. Im grateful for you all. This really helped me tonight. Love & light, Staci

Glad you are part of the MIP family Staci - stay safe and keep coming back!!

Staci, It is very hard to find safe housing when your resources are low. I went though that myself, but I found a nice neighborhood to live in finally. Good luck.

Glad you reached out, Staci..I agree with Jerry and the others who say your safety must come first...I don't know the whole story, but if he is physical threat, there are avenues you can take to protect you and mom....maybe consulting with a domestic violence shelter worker, or like Jerry said, A restraining order......with low resources its harder, but there are good and decent places if you search and ask folks you know and I remember when I had to go to a DV shelter , they gave me great advice and leads so I could get out and away from my abusive EX alcoholic husband....Good luck...keep coming back...you are worth it