I haven't been posting here,doing more reading than anything,
i do use my tools. quiet often,with lots of success,thanks to alanon
today is my freinds wedding day,
i was suppose to be a brides maid ,just didn't work out ,she had to have me for 5 days to learn how to walk out and such,
so I promised her I'd be at her wedding,
im sick with fever,migraines,can't hold down nothing,shakes etc
i messaged her and wished her well that she was gonna make a gorgeous bride,that I was very sick not gonna make it,
she is 55 yrs old,3rd wedding.
2nd time she married this guy.
but she did put a lot into this wedding,making it special,white wedding dress decor.
she is mad at me ,
saying really,...ok.
i know her well that she is mad,
thats her not me,I knew she was gonna be mad when she told me a while back to be there,to show up.
i had plans of being there ,didn't know I was gonna be so sick.
thanks for listening to me ramble on ....hugs lu
Iamhere said
May 20, 2017
(((LU))) - so, so sorry that you are not feeling well and will miss the wedding....I am also sorry that she's angry. Be gentle with you and take care of you. As we often say, this too shall pass!!!
lookingup said
May 20, 2017
Thank you iah for that reminder,and yes this to shall pass,
I did not try to justify myself or explain ,just that I was sick couldn't make it,
My words are good enough.
LinSC said
May 20, 2017
Sorry you're sick, hope you feel better really soon.
I have gotten to the point where I tell my friends ahead of time that "I will plan to be there, participate etc, but there are times when I just can't make it and it is usually I ate something that didnt agree with my stomach. So now when someone invites me to go somewhere I say yes today, but if I am sick I will not make it, I am just telling you ahead of time. Consequently I don't make a lot of definate plans, but thats life for me right now. Your real friends will understand.
lookingup said
May 20, 2017
Thank you linSC ,
I do agree,
I haven't been that sick in 10 yrs,
It is what it is,
Real true freinds understand,
I chose not to jade with her like I done in the past,she has been a lifetime Freind
Anyway,I feel I done the right thing.by wishing her well and that I wouldn't be able to attend because of being sick.
I'm feeling lots better ,took good care of myself,almost ended up at the hospital,
A good Freind arrived and stayed with me,huge help just being here .
I wished i was able to go to the wedding I'm sure I would have enjoyed it,
Things happen ,I'm not gonna make any definate plans from now on.
MissM said
May 21, 2017
Sending you big hugs (and a big bowl of psychic soup).
I truly doubt your friend would have appreciated you showing up and making her sick for her honeymoon! Honestly sometimes we are punished for doing the right thing and it just sucks and that's the way it goes...it's not fair but it just is...
Hope you are well again soon.
lookingup said
May 21, 2017
Thank you Missm for the esh,
Before my recovery I would always jade with everybody and anybody,
Today I don't jade with anybody ,thanks to Alanon,great sponsors ,12 step work,
I use no more often as a complete sentence to,
Which is really Greek to ppl here,it works for me,
I'm a different person today then I was before recovery,
Lots of ppl are beginning to notice it ,some don't like the new me,I do understand,
It's just becoming more n more natural to me today,
A healthier way for me to live life on life's terms.
I'm glad I posted this........ Sending out virtual hugs to all my alanon family,((((((hugs))))) lu
I haven't been posting here,doing more reading than anything,
i do use my tools. quiet often,with lots of success,thanks to alanon
today is my freinds wedding day,
i was suppose to be a brides maid ,just didn't work out ,she had to have me for 5 days to learn how to walk out and such,
so I promised her I'd be at her wedding,
im sick with fever,migraines,can't hold down nothing,shakes etc
i messaged her and wished her well that she was gonna make a gorgeous bride,that I was very sick not gonna make it,
she is 55 yrs old,3rd wedding.
2nd time she married this guy.
but she did put a lot into this wedding,making it special,white wedding dress decor.
she is mad at me ,
saying really,...ok.
i know her well that she is mad,
thats her not me,I knew she was gonna be mad when she told me a while back to be there,to show up.
i had plans of being there ,didn't know I was gonna be so sick.
thanks for listening to me ramble on ....hugs lu
I did not try to justify myself or explain ,just that I was sick couldn't make it,
My words are good enough.
Sorry you're sick, hope you feel better really soon.
I have gotten to the point where I tell my friends ahead of time that "I will plan to be there, participate etc, but there are times when I just can't make it and it is usually I ate something that didnt agree with my stomach. So now when someone invites me to go somewhere I say yes today, but if I am sick I will not make it, I am just telling you ahead of time. Consequently I don't make a lot of definate plans, but thats life for me right now. Your real friends will understand.
I do agree,
I haven't been that sick in 10 yrs,
It is what it is,
Real true freinds understand,
I chose not to jade with her like I done in the past,she has been a lifetime Freind
Anyway,I feel I done the right thing.by wishing her well and that I wouldn't be able to attend because of being sick.
I'm feeling lots better ,took good care of myself,almost ended up at the hospital,
A good Freind arrived and stayed with me,huge help just being here .
I wished i was able to go to the wedding I'm sure I would have enjoyed it,
Things happen ,I'm not gonna make any definate plans from now on.
I truly doubt your friend would have appreciated you showing up and making her sick for her honeymoon! Honestly sometimes we are punished for doing the right thing and it just sucks and that's the way it goes...it's not fair but it just is...
Hope you are well again soon.
Before my recovery I would always jade with everybody and anybody,
Today I don't jade with anybody ,thanks to Alanon,great sponsors ,12 step work,
I use no more often as a complete sentence to,
Which is really Greek to ppl here,it works for me,
I'm a different person today then I was before recovery,
Lots of ppl are beginning to notice it ,some don't like the new me,I do understand,
It's just becoming more n more natural to me today,
A healthier way for me to live life on life's terms.
I'm glad I posted this........ Sending out virtual hugs to all my alanon family,((((((hugs))))) lu