Hi all-It has taken me nearly 4 years in program to discover what my bottom line is for staying with my A. A few weeks ago my A came home barely able to walk, and slurring her words. Although this is now a rare occassion, that she could kill someone else, because of her addiction, is not OK with me. I asked her to go to a food disorder center, or else I couldn't go on as things are, and she agreed . She has two weeks in, they have a no alcohol policy, and she is being guided to AA. She will see a certified alcohol counselor as part of her treatment for now. I didn't really give her an ultimatum, as I offered to go with her and be a part of the treatment, admitting I have problems too. We had a couples' meeting yesterday for an hour and a half, and I will also attend multi-family groups. I had spoken to my sponsor as to whether I was trying to control her or not, and she thought not. I am being completely honest with my spouse: if she decides to continue working on her addictions, I will support our marriage. If she decides not to address her problems in this serious manner, then we need change. Thanks to all of you, I have gotten stronger and wiser. Progress not perfection however, we have a long road ahead. Amen. Lyne
hotrod said
May 17, 2017
Hi LYne It certainly sounds as if you drew a healthy boundary and are following through. Good Work. One day at a time this program works.
SerenityRUS said
May 17, 2017
GFU .. taking care of you is a good thing :)
Freetime said
May 17, 2017
Stronger and wiser, day by day --- recovery looks good on you!
Iamhere said
May 17, 2017
(((Lyne))) - I say great job and way to work it. I am glad to learn that she's 'aware' and taking action. I am one who believes there is some acceptance always even if it's not a 'perfect level'.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way - love progress as a goal - for me, perfection has proven to be over-rated time and time and time again!
Jerry F said
May 17, 2017
Lyne you sound so healthy and so into taking care of you. Prayers coming from the Pacific for both of you...(((hugs)))
Lyne said
May 18, 2017
Thanks everyone for your caring support. I appreciate it so much, Lyne
Hi all-It has taken me nearly 4 years in program to discover what my bottom line is for staying with my A. A few weeks ago my A came home barely able to walk, and slurring her words. Although this is now a rare occassion, that she could kill someone else, because of her addiction, is not OK with me. I asked her to go to a food disorder center, or else I couldn't go on as things are, and she agreed . She has two weeks in, they have a no alcohol policy, and she is being guided to AA. She will see a certified alcohol counselor as part of her treatment for now. I didn't really give her an ultimatum, as I offered to go with her and be a part of the treatment, admitting I have problems too. We had a couples' meeting yesterday for an hour and a half, and I will also attend multi-family groups. I had spoken to my sponsor as to whether I was trying to control her or not, and she thought not. I am being completely honest with my spouse: if she decides to continue working on her addictions, I will support our marriage. If she decides not to address her problems in this serious manner, then we need change. Thanks to all of you, I have gotten stronger and wiser. Progress not perfection however, we have a long road ahead. Amen. Lyne
Hi LYne It certainly sounds as if you drew a healthy boundary and are following through. Good Work.
One day at a time this program works.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way - love progress as a goal - for me, perfection has proven to be over-rated time and time and time again!
Lyne you sound so healthy and so into taking care of you. Prayers coming from the Pacific for both of you...(((hugs)))