It has been 3 months since I have spoke to him. I can not believe how much I miss him. I honestly feel that the pain will never go away. That I will never feel like I belong. Not like I do with him. Now I know how rediculous and emotional this sounds. I am jusy trying to work through all of this mess.
RosieGinger said
May 2, 2017
I understand....
Jill said
May 3, 2017
In your situation, I remember how difficult that was. I felt raw. With the help of my sponsor, I began making daily asset lists and gratitude lists. At first, they could hardly be called lists. I couldn't think of much I had. I had promised her I would do this daily, and it was my desire to feel better that allowed me to honor my promise.
They helped me see my good qualities. I narrowed the scope to me. Not easy.
I also found it so comforting to attend in-person meetings.
You can feel better. For me, I didn't notice feeling better until one day I realized I hadn't obsessed about missing him for maybe a few days or so. I hope not to go back to that impossible rut I was in.
hotrod said
May 3, 2017
I hear you and you are not alone. As Jill suggested, meetings sponsors, reading alanon literature and working the Steps acted as a powerful medicine to help me to recover and process the grief.
"Accepting" that I was grieving a major loss helped as well.
This too will pass.
starcatcher2 said
May 3, 2017
Hello tealfighter,
I can completely relate with you. My Ex did a number on my heart. I just couldn't believe someone would treat another person that they claimed to love. Little did I know there is only one love he could truly have. In the end, the alcohol won, despite my attempts to stay.
I hope your heart heals soon. I'm still working on mine too.
Aerin said
May 3, 2017
I think alcohol pretty much wins in the end too.. it's sad actually. TV and Ads promote drinking like crazy. But they sure don't show the ugly side of it
starcatcher2 said
May 3, 2017
Aerin wrote:
I think alcohol pretty much wins in the end too.. it's sad actually. TV and Ads promote drinking like crazy. But they sure don't show the ugly side of it
It has been 3 months since I have spoke to him. I can not believe how much I miss him. I honestly feel that the pain will never go away. That I will never feel like I belong. Not like I do with him. Now I know how rediculous and emotional this sounds. I am jusy trying to work through all of this mess.
I understand....
They helped me see my good qualities. I narrowed the scope to me. Not easy.
I also found it so comforting to attend in-person meetings.
You can feel better. For me, I didn't notice feeling better until one day I realized I hadn't obsessed about missing him for maybe a few days or so. I hope not to go back to that impossible rut I was in.
"Accepting" that I was grieving a major loss helped as well.
This too will pass.
Hello tealfighter,
I can completely relate with you. My Ex did a number on my heart. I just couldn't believe someone would treat another person that they claimed to love. Little did I know there is only one love he could truly have. In the end, the alcohol won, despite my attempts to stay.
I hope your heart heals soon. I'm still working on mine too.
They sure don't. They actually glorify it.