Since I just found this board I'm not sure if this is something I will learn in meetings, etc. but still wanted to ask from personal experience.
I don't know how to act after my husband wakes up from one of his drinking spouts. Sometimes he's slept it off but other times is still feeling the effects. I feel like I've tried lots of different reactions. Sometimes I just try to act normal like nothing happened but other times like this morning I was just silent and didn't really have anything to say ; mainly because I'm trying to bite my tongue and realize nagging leads to arguing and that makes it worse. I just went about my business but felt very detached. I just don't know what to say or do because I want to reason with him or try to understand why he does this ugh
a4l said
Jan 26, 2017
What can we say really? Nothing that changes anything. Im a person who needs to communicate how i feel. But I've found it makes me feel worse doing that with a drunk or hungover person and learbed that it feeds the disease
Do keep coming back here And seek out meetings. Its not good to bottle it up and there are people who understand.we are not alone.
On drinking, i do talk and express how i view things, but i do it like im talking to an aquaintance so im not attached to the outcome. When things are " good" not in the heat of the moment.
Since I just found this board I'm not sure if this is something I will learn in meetings, etc. but still wanted to ask from personal experience.
I don't know how to act after my husband wakes up from one of his drinking spouts. Sometimes he's slept it off but other times is still feeling the effects. I feel like I've tried lots of different reactions. Sometimes I just try to act normal like nothing happened but other times like this morning I was just silent and didn't really have anything to say ; mainly because I'm trying to bite my tongue and realize nagging leads to arguing and that makes it worse. I just went about my business but felt very detached. I just don't know what to say or do because I want to reason with him or try to understand why he does this ugh
Do keep coming back here And seek out meetings. Its not good to bottle it up and there are people who understand.we are not alone.
On drinking, i do talk and express how i view things, but i do it like im talking to an aquaintance so im not attached to the outcome. When things are " good" not in the heat of the moment.