I'm not sure how this chatroom works. I've never been part of one. I just need someone to talk to honestly, someone I can be honest with. I am so tired of trying to be "normal". I don't talk with my kids or sisters about his drinking, they've heard it all before, and wonder why I stay. If I had the money to live in a nice, safe place, and not have to worry about returning to him, just to have a roof over my head and bills paid, I would leave ASAP. I am so tired of everything.
A big thump woke me around 3am this morning. I knew he had fallen, but I didn't go see. I got up to use the bathroom, and went back to bed, listening, then I heard another thump, when he fell again. Then I heard his bedroom door close, and nothing more. I couldn't get back to sleep, so I got up, went to the spare room, and found this place. So here I sit, wondering what will happen next.
Fife
hotrod said
Dec 31, 2016
Welcome FiFi I too am glad that you found us and I'm sorry that you are coping with the negative effects of this disease. I can identify with the feelings that you express and that was the reason I searched out support for myself as I just could not live that way anymore . Al-Anon is a recovery program for family members who live with or have lived with the disease of alcoholism .
We believe, what the medical Association has stated, that alcoholism is a chronic, progressive, fatal disease over which were powerless. Attending Al-Anon meetings and breaking the isolation caused by living with the disease is extremely important. Face-to-face meetings are held in most communities and the hotline number is in the white pages.
It is here I learned to keep the focus on myself, live one day at a time, trust a power greater than myself and acknowledge my assets and gifts.
Please keep coming back here there is hope,
Freetime said
Dec 31, 2016
Fifi, I hope all is well. I too have experienced those bumps in the night and the sleeplessness and worry. When I reached the point of despair, I went to http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/find-a-meeting and looked for the nearest Alanon meeting. Luckily there was a meeting later that day. I went, I continue to go, and it has helped me tremendously. Those rooms are the place I could be honest.
If you cannot get to a face-to-face meeting, they have online meetings on this site, and there are telephone meetings listed here: http://al-anon.info/MeetingSearch/PhoneMeetings.aspx?language=EN
I found that making a "Plan B," having a bag packed so I could leave quickly if needed, were helpful to make me feel less afraid. I also learned that if the alcoholic was sick/injured, I could call an ambulance and I did not have to go to the hospital with him.
Robbin said
Dec 31, 2016
I am new here as well. I love what was just said about keeping the focus on myself.
My son and my daughter are both in recovery. My daughter for 4 years (age 24). My son has been struggling a bit more over the last three years (age 28). I am so proud of them both, but I hate this disease so much. I feel like I walk on eggshell even though we have so much to be grateful for. I struggle most with acceptance that this disease can rear it's ugly head at any time. My son feels the most fragile to me and I am having a hard time letting him just be the 28 year old man he needs to be. I find myself "checking in" on him and it's driving me and him crazy. I am praying hard that this is the year I work and concentrate on my own recovery. I know that will benefit us all.
Iamhere said
Dec 31, 2016
Welcome Fife and Robbin - glad you both found MIP and glad that you reached out here. Please keep coming back - you are not alone and there is hope and help in recovery...
I'm not sure how this chatroom works. I've never been part of one. I just need someone to talk to honestly, someone I can be honest with. I am so tired of trying to be "normal". I don't talk with my kids or sisters about his drinking, they've heard it all before, and wonder why I stay. If I had the money to live in a nice, safe place, and not have to worry about returning to him, just to have a roof over my head and bills paid, I would leave ASAP. I am so tired of everything.
A big thump woke me around 3am this morning. I knew he had fallen, but I didn't go see. I got up to use the bathroom, and went back to bed, listening, then I heard another thump, when he fell again. Then I heard his bedroom door close, and nothing more. I couldn't get back to sleep, so I got up, went to the spare room, and found this place. So here I sit, wondering what will happen next.
Fife
Welcome FiFi I too am glad that you found us and I'm sorry that you are coping with the negative effects of this disease. I can identify with the feelings that you express and that was the reason I searched out support for myself as I just could not live that way anymore . Al-Anon is a recovery program for family members who live with or have lived with the disease of alcoholism .
We believe, what the medical Association has stated, that alcoholism is a chronic, progressive, fatal disease over which were powerless. Attending Al-Anon meetings and breaking the isolation caused by living with the disease is extremely important. Face-to-face meetings are held in most communities and the hotline number is in the white pages.
It is here I learned to keep the focus on myself, live one day at a time, trust a power greater than myself and acknowledge my assets and gifts.
Please keep coming back here there is hope,
Fifi, I hope all is well. I too have experienced those bumps in the night and the sleeplessness and worry. When I reached the point of despair, I went to http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/find-a-meeting and looked for the nearest Alanon meeting. Luckily there was a meeting later that day. I went, I continue to go, and it has helped me tremendously. Those rooms are the place I could be honest.
If you cannot get to a face-to-face meeting, they have online meetings on this site, and there are telephone meetings listed here: http://al-anon.info/MeetingSearch/PhoneMeetings.aspx?language=EN
I found that making a "Plan B," having a bag packed so I could leave quickly if needed, were helpful to make me feel less afraid. I also learned that if the alcoholic was sick/injured, I could call an ambulance and I did not have to go to the hospital with him.
I am new here as well. I love what was just said about keeping the focus on myself.
My son and my daughter are both in recovery. My daughter for 4 years (age 24). My son has been struggling a bit more over the last three years (age 28). I am so proud of them both, but I hate this disease so much. I feel like I walk on eggshell even though we have so much to be grateful for. I struggle most with acceptance that this disease can rear it's ugly head at any time. My son feels the most fragile to me and I am having a hard time letting him just be the 28 year old man he needs to be. I find myself "checking in" on him and it's driving me and him crazy. I am praying hard that this is the year I work and concentrate on my own recovery. I know that will benefit us all.