I can't imagine the pain your family is in .. I used to work at a funeral home and the biggest thing I heard from grieving families is they were hurt that no one wanted to talk about the deceased person. Turning it over to your HP is a great answer .. Being there the best you can for her and listening if she wants to talk there are no right responses to losing a loved one. People feel the need to say obligatory things and there are absolutely zero right words. Hugs ... Your family are in my thoughts while you all process this loss. Hugs ..

I second serenityruspost. There really is nothing anyone can say or do to alleviate the pain of losing a loved one. Grief is a process and it is different for everyone I think it is particularly hard when its a child no matter how old that child was. When my mom lost my brother to suicide secondary to addiction, she was older to and it was extremely hard on her and took a toll. It was painful to watch and I remember feeling resentful towards my brother for all of the grief he had caused my parents. I now have a better acceptance and understanding of the disease of addiction and realize how truly tortured an individual he was and I am grateful that he is at peace. Hugs to you as you go through this difficult time.