Today is a day of reflection for me.  A year ago my relationship with my AD was in a shambles, life was crazy and I was stressed beyond anything imaginable and felt hopeless that it was ever going to change.  Well it has changed in a remarkable way.  This weekend was the first time my AD had been back home since leaving to go to treatment a year ago.  We have a different relationship now.  I have learned to stay out of her business and let go of most of my expectations which has been a tremendous gift to myself. Although I still worry about her at times, I am beginning to relax, let my breath out and have faith that she knows what to do.    She has matured a ton this past year and it is such a joy to see her beginning to blossom and create a life for herself that she wants.  Life has returned to a state of normalacy for us for the most part and I am so grateful.  Through Al-anon I have come to learn and understand that I am not responsible for everyone and just how much I tried to control and fix everything.  It is so freeing to be able to let go of others lives and focus on me. 

I agree ...great share and a continuation of my morning meeting ...grateful   ((((hugs))))

Thank you for sharing this. its just so hooeful for me, i could actually cry. when its our kids it takes us way beyond the problems we think we had with our partner. well in my experience i thought i went through hell with my exh until it was my child now thats another depth of hell. the good news though is we get sharper tools, dont you think? they become life or death, well for me. ive got to work this because my children are owed that from me. im owed it. im so so grateful for alanon, i dont think i would be here, i think my child being effected by it was the end of it for me. its great your here sharing this message for all the mothers and fathers to see, thats gratitude in action x