I have struggled for so lomy having the strength and courage to leave my abf..but I believe I am ready. He came back from rehab 3 weeks ago and is back to all his old ways..I think I need to go..for me, and for him. He won't get better while I'm here, and I am getting worse in my own codependency. I am scared..but I believe it's the right thing to do. I can't help but be angry, because I lose my job, my friends, my apt, my future that I wanted..and he loses nothing. I moved 2000 miles to live with him, and I'm going back. So yes, I'm angry..as he gets to keep his apt, job, friends, life..he is losing me, but I doubt he cares much. Anyway, wish me luck..and I will still be here, on this board!
hotrod said
Nov 12, 2016
((Desperate in NY)) positive thoughts and prayers going out to you. Please do keep coming back and when you arrive home continue to attend face to face meetings. You are worth it.
FooledMeTwice said
Nov 12, 2016
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. Trust me I truly feel your anger and your pain. I was involved with my ex ABF for 8 years and dealt with his drinking for the past 3 years. I'm glad that you are making the decision to leave rather than waiting around for him to dump you like my ex ABF did me. I hope you find happiness and peace soon when you get back to where you are going. You are in my thoughts.
Iamhere said
Nov 12, 2016
(((Desperate))) - I too am sending you hugs, positive thoughts and prayers. Keep coming back!
Calm Lady said
Nov 12, 2016
Sorry you are going through this. Sending you warmth and prayers.
Lucy125 said
Nov 12, 2016
You have yourself and your integrity and that is worth more than anything in the world.
Jerry F said
Nov 12, 2016
Walk away holding on to the hand or robe of your Higher Power...that is what worked for me and I left with confidence that it wasn't an end for me just a little part of me. You will survive and one part of the lesson for me was "don't look back over my shoulder for what I might be missing". Keep coming back home to your MIP family ((((hugs))))
pinkchip said
Nov 12, 2016
That's what I thought. But I was the one with a program and a desire to better myself. Hence, years later, my ex has all the same drama and I don't. My life is good. It was a scary change and it hurt a while before getting way way better. Just my experience.
I have struggled for so lomy having the strength and courage to leave my abf..but I believe I am ready. He came back from rehab 3 weeks ago and is back to all his old ways..I think I need to go..for me, and for him. He won't get better while I'm here, and I am getting worse in my own codependency. I am scared..but I believe it's the right thing to do. I can't help but be angry, because I lose my job, my friends, my apt, my future that I wanted..and he loses nothing. I moved 2000 miles to live with him, and I'm going back. So yes, I'm angry..as he gets to keep his apt, job, friends, life..he is losing me, but I doubt he cares much. Anyway, wish me luck..and I will still be here, on this board!
You have yourself and your integrity and that is worth more than anything in the world.
Walk away holding on to the hand or robe of your Higher Power...that is what worked for me and I left with confidence that it wasn't an end for me just a little part of me. You will survive and one part of the lesson for me was "don't look back over my shoulder for what I might be missing". Keep coming back home to your MIP family ((((hugs))))