I am so done with the abf. I am beyond disgusted. I am seeing him for what a selfish prick he really his. On Monday I had to go for surgery on my stomack, he did not take me or pick me up. I made my own arrangements. Yesterday he decided to get drunk and kept me up all night. I am still in a lot of pain. It was major surgery. Cut open in three places. He was being a jerk about me being in pain and decided he is going to contact his ex-wife last night and talked to her all night. I left this morning as I can not tolerate being in pain and being around someone that is drunk and a prick. I see he is just using me, and taking advantage of me. Shame on me for staying around him. This to me is the last and final straw. I am done and as soon as I get better I will be packing my belongings and moving out. I will be in my apartment by December 1. that is is my goal now, maybe sooner if I get better. I am so fed up with his sick game and being taken advantage of. he is is for a shock when I am not there to pay the bills or the morgage. Your problem, not mine...I am feeling strong and can not wait to get out..I am at my sisters house now as I am to sick and I can not be around the drunk with the pain I am in. I FEEL NUMB AND HAD ENOUGH! hE CAN HAVE HIS EX-WIFE BACK AND SHE CAN TOLERATE IS DRUNKINESS..WILL NOT LONGER BE MY PROBLEM!
hotrod said
Nov 11, 2016
((Joker)) You are sounding strong and your decision reasonable . Positive thoughts on the way.
Lucy125 said
Nov 11, 2016
I am sorry you are going through this. sometimes we have hopes and dreams for people, and they just don't come true.
SerenityRUS said
Nov 11, 2016
Hugs, I hope you are getting the rest you need to recover from your surgery. Just getting through that part will make you feel so much better. GFU on having some goals .. I hope that you find peace in your new place.
S :)
Iamhere said
Nov 12, 2016
(((Joker))) - best wishes to you for a swift recovery from your surgery. Like Serenity above me, I hope you are getting rest so your strength returns. Sending you thoughts and prayers - tomorrow is a new day....and hopefully will bring you more healing.
FooledMeTwice said
Nov 12, 2016
(((JOKER))) - I am so sorry you are going through all this rage and anger. I've been there and it sucks. I hope you can see your plans through and get to a happy and peaceful place in your life soon! You deserve to be happy and free of this mess known as the disease of alcoholism. I wish you the best!
Rosemeyer said
Nov 12, 2016
((Joker)) This was a decision a long-time in the making. We have heard the pain you are in, both physically and emotionally.
With each episode, you are getting stronger.
It might be helpful for you to print out your post - so that when the doubts begin to try to creep in, you can read how firm your resolve really is.
Printing affirmations that I could read out loud was helpful for me when I wavered. "I am turning my life and my will over to my Higher Power" was an affirmation that helped me know that it is really not up to me, that I always have help to carry me, nudge me, and get me through to a life of recovery. You are not alone.
You might focus on your own physical healing process as a positive metaphor for your emotional healing process. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
el-cee said
Nov 13, 2016
Hey joker, sounds like you did the right thing, getting to your sisters. first thing first, get yourself better, allowing the healing in peace. no shame needed, you touched the burny fire again, its still burning hot. it reminds me of the reading about the guy who sits under the tree full of pigeons and gets covered in bird crap then he turns around and blames the birds. your partner is behqving just like an active alcoholic, nothing more, nothing less. please try not to take it personally, its not about you, its bigger and deeper than you. he doesnt have the tools to care for you or love you no matter how hard you want it. it doesnt exist, its not there, no matter what you say or do, he hasnt got what you want or need. only you have it. you have it all to make your life better but you wont ever see it when your looking at him expecting him to make your life better.
Alanon meetings, readings, sponsor the lot will help you see the truth i this.x
I am so done with the abf. I am beyond disgusted. I am seeing him for what a selfish prick he really his. On Monday I had to go for surgery on my stomack, he did not take me or pick me up. I made my own arrangements. Yesterday he decided to get drunk and kept me up all night. I am still in a lot of pain. It was major surgery. Cut open in three places. He was being a jerk about me being in pain and decided he is going to contact his ex-wife last night and talked to her all night. I left this morning as I can not tolerate being in pain and being around someone that is drunk and a prick. I see he is just using me, and taking advantage of me. Shame on me for staying around him. This to me is the last and final straw. I am done and as soon as I get better I will be packing my belongings and moving out. I will be in my apartment by December 1. that is is my goal now, maybe sooner if I get better. I am so fed up with his sick game and being taken advantage of. he is is for a shock when I am not there to pay the bills or the morgage. Your problem, not mine...I am feeling strong and can not wait to get out..I am at my sisters house now as I am to sick and I can not be around the drunk with the pain I am in. I FEEL NUMB AND HAD ENOUGH! hE CAN HAVE HIS EX-WIFE BACK AND SHE CAN TOLERATE IS DRUNKINESS..WILL NOT LONGER BE MY PROBLEM!
I am sorry you are going through this. sometimes we have hopes and dreams for people, and they just don't come true.
S :)
With each episode, you are getting stronger.
It might be helpful for you to print out your post - so that when the doubts begin to try to creep in, you can read how firm your resolve really is.
Printing affirmations that I could read out loud was helpful for me when I wavered. "I am turning my life and my will over to my Higher Power" was an affirmation that helped me know that it is really not up to me, that I always have help to carry me, nudge me, and get me through to a life of recovery. You are not alone.
You might focus on your own physical healing process as a positive metaphor for your emotional healing process. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hey joker, sounds like you did the right thing, getting to your sisters. first thing first, get yourself better, allowing the healing in peace. no shame needed, you touched the burny fire again, its still burning hot. it reminds me of the reading about the guy who sits under the tree full of pigeons and gets covered in bird crap then he turns around and blames the birds. your partner is behqving just like an active alcoholic, nothing more, nothing less. please try not to take it personally, its not about you, its bigger and deeper than you. he doesnt have the tools to care for you or love you no matter how hard you want it. it doesnt exist, its not there, no matter what you say or do, he hasnt got what you want or need. only you have it. you have it all to make your life better but you wont ever see it when your looking at him expecting him to make your life better.
Alanon meetings, readings, sponsor the lot will help you see the truth i this.x