So DH isn't using currently. He's attending one meeting per week but I wouldn't say he's "working" on anything.
I'm working on myself and it's hard. But it's what's best.
Is anyone familiar with a recovering addict having serious mood swings? It's quite exhausting. One week he's up and full of energy, other weeks he's depressed and or tired and or "sick". And at times he's just indifferent and ignores me and my son and sits on his damn phone.
Again, I know I can't change him at all, but is this common with dry drunks?
Does anyone have experience with this?
Thank you everyone!
pinkchip said
Oct 15, 2016
Yeah. Of course that's common. Addicts are people that have problems dealing with emotions and situations as they are. Hence, if not in program, and even in program for a while, you can expect mood swings, tantrums, escapist behavior, anger outbursts....
-- Edited by pinkchip on Saturday 15th of October 2016 03:56:01 PM
Jerry F said
Oct 15, 2016
"All over the place was one of the descriptions I learned regarding "her" mind and moods and I learn that during the "letting go" lessons. For that I am soooo grateful because part of that was understanding that my alcoholic/addict had all the time and tools necessary to make the changes she needed...it had nothing to do with me...(((hugs)))
hotrod said
Oct 15, 2016
I do believe that this described me in alanon early recovery I found that keeping the focus on myself, examining my motives and leaving everyone else alone helped me tremendously
Keep coming back.
milkwood said
Oct 16, 2016
Yup, that sounds familiar!
I put on an imaginary mesh to protect myself from the mood swings. When I found myself getting upset by them I asked myself whether or not my life was actually affected by the moods or if it was just my reaction to them. Nine times out of ten it was the latter, and then I could get on with my day. Not easy! I wanted my husband to feel happy and content with life and found it difficult not to think that I had failed in some way or other. Learning that I didn't have to take responsibility for any of those moods helped me and turned out to be a lesson worth learning. Sending ((((hugs))))
jitsuka said
Oct 16, 2016
Yes, sounds familiar. My A is like that, her moods up and down. I learnt a long time ago to let go, detach. It's incredibly difficult but necessary for your own mental health. Take care x
Yeah. Of course that's common. Addicts are people that have problems dealing with emotions and situations as they are. Hence, if not in program, and even in program for a while, you can expect mood swings, tantrums, escapist behavior, anger outbursts....
-- Edited by pinkchip on Saturday 15th of October 2016 03:56:01 PM
"All over the place was one of the descriptions I learned regarding "her" mind and moods and I learn that during the "letting go" lessons. For that I am soooo grateful because part of that was understanding that my alcoholic/addict had all the time and tools necessary to make the changes she needed...it had nothing to do with me...(((hugs)))
Keep coming back.
I put on an imaginary mesh to protect myself from the mood swings. When I found myself getting upset by them I asked myself whether or not my life was actually affected by the moods or if it was just my reaction to them. Nine times out of ten it was the latter, and then I could get on with my day. Not easy! I wanted my husband to feel happy and content with life and found it difficult not to think that I had failed in some way or other. Learning that I didn't have to take responsibility for any of those moods helped me and turned out to be a lesson worth learning. Sending ((((hugs))))