I don't know what it is but something is up with my son.
God grant me the serenity for the things I can not change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference
((( hugs )))
Calm Lady said
Oct 2, 2016
Prayers of extra support to you.
hotrod said
Oct 2, 2016
((Cathy)) positive thoughts on the way.
MissM said
Oct 2, 2016
Hugs Cathy. No matter what comes to pass, you got it and HP has you and your son.
(((Cathy)))
maryjane said
Oct 2, 2016
One day at a time, Cathy. It will be revealed to you when it should.
Keep on taking care of yourself.
LinSC said
Oct 2, 2016
Prayers for you Cathy and your son. Linsc
Jerry F said
Oct 2, 2016
Maryjane's suggestion is what worked for me and still does in the first words of the first step...Admit I am powerless and then the 2nd step and the 3rd. You know how its done...prayers for you and your son. (((hugs)))
Iamhere said
Oct 2, 2016
Sending you tons of Love, Support, Positive Energy and Prayers! One moment and one day at a time is how I roll when there is something 'in the air'. (((Hugs)))
deacon said
Oct 2, 2016
Oh Cathy, so sorry! All good wishes coming your way to help you stay strong.
Cathyinaz said
Oct 2, 2016
He was with his dad yesterday and he said my son fell and hit his head but it wasn't bad he thought. After that he said my son was extremely goofy and wanted to go home. Asked me to check up on him and now I can't get him on phone. I guess I need to go over to his house and see if he is OK.....I just don't want to find him drunk.
Friday he wasn't right either......slow and couldn't talk right. When I asked him if he was OK.....he just stared at me and said YOU THINK I"M DRINKING......Brings back fear and worry of two years ago.
Yep that's what I think but didn't say it to him.
Iamhere said
Oct 2, 2016
(((Cathy))) - take your HP and all of us with you if you decide to go. I am sorry for the fear and anxiety you have - I can relate and want you to know you are not alone. (((Hugs)))
el-cee said
Oct 2, 2016
Hi cathy nice to see you here. Could be a chance to sharpen up your tools. We are here for you x
andromeda said
Oct 2, 2016
HI Cathy, prayers for you and wishing your son well. Good to see you back here again. Don't make assumptions. You just never know what's going on, you know?
serenity47 said
Oct 3, 2016
((Cathy)) I pray that everything has turned out positive in this situation for you and your son.
milkwood said
Oct 3, 2016
((((((((Cathy)))))))))
Prayers for you both. I still remember that picture of your son looking so good in the saddle and will keep that picture in mind today. ((((hugs))))
LinSC said
Oct 3, 2016
I feel your pain Cathy....you have a right to remind him he'll lose everything he worked for mainly his sobriety.....then step back and keep in close contact with your HP linsc
KennyFenderjazz said
Oct 3, 2016
Prayers for you Cathy
Cathyinaz said
Oct 3, 2016
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Yes he is drinking and he will lose it all. His job, home and his sobriety. He said in a text he doesn't know what to do. He can't withdraw. I was amazed how fast he went right back to the start. I think he will truly die this time.
I beat him down today and it hurts inside that I did that. He is right back to the same ole lie lie lie.....WOW I told him what he will lose many times over and now I will step back and let him go completely. I can't and won't see him as long as he drinks.
I do know what I need to do.....
((( hugs )))
hotrod said
Oct 3, 2016
((Cathy))) prayers and positive thoughts on the way. I hate this disease and so understand your pain.
LinSC said
Oct 3, 2016
He does know what to do. And I hope and pray he finds his recovery again today. You also know what you have to do, I am so bummed and sorry you have to repeat this over again. I hope you rise above this with Al-anon, Love and prayers to you Cathy, I feel you. You are not alone. linsc
pinkchip said
Oct 3, 2016
He never had much recovery in the real world. I was praying the spiritual awakening he had in prison would last but I know it is hard without the daily reminder and self imposed structure of AA. I am sorry to hear this Cathy. I pray he finds his seat in AA. It baffles me why some suffer like this and try and battle alcoholism alone when it is next to impossible and they don't have to.
Jerry F said
Oct 3, 2016
Cathy Loving you and standing with you and him also. This is the cunning, powerful and baffling part for you both and I fully agree with LinSC...he does know and has to duplicate what he first started doing. It works when you work it...pass that on and get out of his way so he and his HP can go forward. Stay within your own hula hoop. (((((hugs)))))
Jen61 said
Oct 3, 2016
I am so sorry Cathy. Prayers and positive thoughts to you and your family.
Iamhere said
Oct 3, 2016
(((Cathy))) - sending positive thoughts and prayers your way too. We are with you and I too can relate to where you are. Trust HP and take care of you...
milkwood said
Oct 4, 2016
(((((Cathy)))))
Wrapping you in my prayers. I'm so pleased that you guys have had some good times together recently and am just baffled by this disease. (((hugs)))
el-cee said
Oct 4, 2016
Im sorry to hear this Cathy. You do know what you need to do, you've done it before and so does he. Remember he has his own higher power and your not it. Wrap him up in a big fluffy blanket, put him in your God box and give him over to your higher power. Another tool may be to see the time you had with him sober as being a blessing and the seed has been planted within him so where there is life there is hope.x
tiredtonite said
Oct 4, 2016
I'm sorry (((cathy))) I know you're disappointed and especially worried. I hope he finds his way back. Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you and your son. TT
Cathyinaz said
Oct 4, 2016
I don't even know to take him and let him off. I guess on a street corner....Oh this sucks.
hotrod said
Oct 4, 2016
(((Cathy)) It does suck!!! Prayers on the way. Why not let him stay in his home.
a4l said
Oct 4, 2016
Wrapping you in warmth. You're a lovely and smart lady. (((Cathy)))
Iamhere said
Oct 4, 2016
(((Cathy))) - continued prayers to you. In our county, there is an adult detox center. I have dropped mine there a few times. They have limited space and move them in/out as fast as they can but they do get support in detoxing as well as assistance in finding inpatient services if desired. It does suck badly....
Sending you a PM with a link to some possible resources....know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Cathyinaz said
Oct 4, 2016
Hi Betty
He lost his job today and the home he is renting belongs to a friend of mine. She has lived with an alcoholic for 12 year and knows full well what will happen. Will won't be able to pay the rent and then the police will be called in to evict him I'm sure.
He has 30 days because the rent is paid until November 1st. After that he has to get out and I will be the one to do it because of my friend. I don't want her to go though this.
Thank you Iamhere...I will go read your message now.
hotrod said
Oct 4, 2016
I am sorry to hear this Cathy. Prayers continue.
LinSC said
Oct 4, 2016
Lots of things are happening now, and will progress as you already know. but IMPORTANT, take care of yourself, absolutely non of this is your fault. I know you are hurting and rightfully so, but please try to stay above it with Alanon. Your friend linsc.
I don't know what it is but something is up with my son.
God grant me the serenity for the things I can not change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference
((( hugs )))
(((Cathy)))
Keep on taking care of yourself.
Prayers for you Cathy and your son. Linsc
Maryjane's suggestion is what worked for me and still does in the first words of the first step...Admit I am powerless and then the 2nd step and the 3rd. You know how its done...prayers for you and your son. (((hugs)))
Oh Cathy, so sorry! All good wishes coming your way to help you stay strong.
Friday he wasn't right either......slow and couldn't talk right. When I asked him if he was OK.....he just stared at me and said YOU THINK I"M DRINKING......Brings back fear and worry of two years ago.
Yep that's what I think but didn't say it to him.
Prayers for you both. I still remember that picture of your son looking so good in the saddle and will keep that picture in mind today. ((((hugs))))
I feel your pain Cathy....you have a right to remind him he'll lose everything he worked for mainly his sobriety.....then step back and keep in close contact with your HP linsc
I beat him down today and it hurts inside that I did that. He is right back to the same ole lie lie lie.....WOW I told him what he will lose many times over and now I will step back and let him go completely. I can't and won't see him as long as he drinks.
I do know what I need to do.....
((( hugs )))
He does know what to do. And I hope and pray he finds his recovery again today. You also know what you have to do, I am so bummed and sorry you have to repeat this over again. I hope you rise above this with Al-anon, Love and prayers to you Cathy, I feel you. You are not alone. linsc
Cathy Loving you and standing with you and him also. This is the cunning, powerful and baffling part for you both and I fully agree with LinSC...he does know and has to duplicate what he first started doing. It works when you work it...pass that on and get out of his way so he and his HP can go forward. Stay within your own hula hoop. (((((hugs)))))
Wrapping you in my prayers. I'm so pleased that you guys have had some good times together recently and am just baffled by this disease. (((hugs)))
I'm sorry (((cathy))) I know you're disappointed and especially worried. I hope he finds his way back. Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you and your son. TT
(((Cathy)) It does suck!!! Prayers on the way. Why not let him stay in his home.
Sending you a PM with a link to some possible resources....know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
He lost his job today and the home he is renting belongs to a friend of mine. She has lived with an alcoholic for 12 year and knows full well what will happen. Will won't be able to pay the rent and then the police will be called in to evict him I'm sure.
He has 30 days because the rent is paid until November 1st. After that he has to get out and I will be the one to do it because of my friend. I don't want her to go though this.
Thank you Iamhere...I will go read your message now.
Lots of things are happening now, and will progress as you already know. but IMPORTANT, take care of yourself, absolutely non of this is your fault. I know you are hurting and rightfully so, but please try to stay above it with Alanon. Your friend linsc.