I found a meeting in my area, but they only meet on Mondays. I will go next Monday. I can't find a Al-Anonteen meeting in my area only one that is an hour away. My girls are so busy there is no way to get them there. Do any of you have any suggestions on online AnAnonteen supports? I have a 17 year old, 16 year old, and tow 14 year olds. Also, my girls are big readers too, are there any books suggestions?
Thank you,
Crystal
hotrod said
Sep 14, 2016
Hi Crystal Glad you found a meeting Here is a web site that might help with alateen on line meetings and available literature.
I have no experience at all with AlaTeen online activity. I just wanted to say good on you for reaching out!
CEH said
Sep 14, 2016
Thank you!
abbyal said
Sep 15, 2016
As a former sponsor of Al-Anon on line I can highly reccomend the site. It is a safe place for our kids to talk and share thier feelings. The room is only open for meetings they cannot go and chat like we can here. Monitors for the room are Al-Anon members in good standing as all have to be police checked and approved by WSO . Louise
hotrod said
Sep 15, 2016
Thanks Louise -- always appreciate your ESH
CEH said
Sep 15, 2016
I talked to my daughters about the sites and two of them said they didn't want to look at them. My second to oldest said she would rather not hear about other peoples problems as she doesn't even want to deal with her own. I had an argument with her this morning and she was being disrespectful so I turned her data and texting off on her phone. I guess she realized it during her second period class and as I am teaching in the school she is at she was very emotional and upset about it and just left the classroom crying and came to my classroom. This daughter of mine is Bipolar, but is on her medication. She is extremely smart and is a good girl. I had texted my older girls this morning seeing if my id badge was in their vehicle. She said it was and I asked her to get it and I would walk down to get it. When I got to their classroom my oldest daughter was going to get it. I noticed that I had a text from my second oldest daughter that said "well you didn't have it all week so what does it matter now". I told her when I saw her that I didn't have it on Monday because it was in her vehicle, but had the rest of the week and I had left it in there yesterday. She began to argue with me in front of the students in the class. I told her that she was wrong and left. When I was leaving I explained what happened to my oldest daughter and told her to tell my second daughter that if she wanted her texting and data back on her phone she would need to apologize to me. I have smart limits on my phone where I can turn my girls stuff off with a click of a button. This is why my second daughter left her second period class crying. She came to my class and I sent my students to the class next door and we sat down and had a great conversation. She really vented and told me how frustrated she was and irritated about how her parents act like children and she is sick of it. I was able to explain to her what was going on and how we are doing counseling and what Al-Anon was. She told me that she is stressed out and doesn't feel like she has anyone normal to rely on other than her boyfriend that lives two hours away and they text all the time. We talked about my frustrations and what I am going through and we talked about how we both were going to make conscious changes on how we treat each other even if we are stressed out. This is when she was telling me she didn't want to hear about other peoples problems. By the time the talk was over we were laughing and hugging. It was the first time that she has ever truly opened up and told me how she was feeling. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get my girls to give Al-Anon a chance? I am going to text them the link and hopefully they will check it out. My oldest didn't say anything about it when I suggested it so hopefully she will check it out. Thank you for your support.
-- Edited by CEH on Thursday 15th of September 2016 02:40:12 PM
Iamhere said
Sep 15, 2016
All I can share Crystal is my kids were very resistant to any/all outside help. That did not stop me from offering. Each and every opportunity I got, I would offer counseling to them. The best possible gift you can give your children is to work on your own recovery. We talk in the program about attraction rather than promotion. When others see the changes in us, they tend to admire/want/change some too.
I also slipped in program speak at every chance I got without giving the program credit. When finals would come, I would suggest they focus on the here and now and first things first. So on it goes....
We can't fix our children any more than we can fix our spouses. We can only encourage, respect, and love them as best we know how. ODAT.
hotrod said
Sep 15, 2016
Hi Chrystal That sound intense. I do understand your daughter's reaction to alateen. That was my first response to alanon.
It was explained to me that the program was developed to help families of alcoholics. In alateen the main point is to grow and develop new tools to live by so as to have a constructive positive life and to have a support system of like minded others who truly understand.
I would get some literature such as:" Alcoholism the Family disease" and the " alateen One Day at a Tme reader. These could help to open the door to a better understanding.
I found a meeting in my area, but they only meet on Mondays. I will go next Monday. I can't find a Al-Anonteen meeting in my area only one that is an hour away. My girls are so busy there is no way to get them there. Do any of you have any suggestions on online AnAnonteen supports? I have a 17 year old, 16 year old, and tow 14 year olds. Also, my girls are big readers too, are there any books suggestions?
Thank you,
Crystal
www.al-anon.org/try-an-alateen-chat-meeting
As a former sponsor of Al-Anon on line I can highly reccomend the site. It is a safe place for our kids to talk and share thier feelings. The room is only open for meetings they cannot go and chat like we can here. Monitors for the room are Al-Anon members in good standing as all have to be police checked and approved by WSO . Louise
I talked to my daughters about the sites and two of them said they didn't want to look at them. My second to oldest said she would rather not hear about other peoples problems as she doesn't even want to deal with her own. I had an argument with her this morning and she was being disrespectful so I turned her data and texting off on her phone. I guess she realized it during her second period class and as I am teaching in the school she is at she was very emotional and upset about it and just left the classroom crying and came to my classroom. This daughter of mine is Bipolar, but is on her medication. She is extremely smart and is a good girl. I had texted my older girls this morning seeing if my id badge was in their vehicle. She said it was and I asked her to get it and I would walk down to get it. When I got to their classroom my oldest daughter was going to get it. I noticed that I had a text from my second oldest daughter that said "well you didn't have it all week so what does it matter now". I told her when I saw her that I didn't have it on Monday because it was in her vehicle, but had the rest of the week and I had left it in there yesterday. She began to argue with me in front of the students in the class. I told her that she was wrong and left. When I was leaving I explained what happened to my oldest daughter and told her to tell my second daughter that if she wanted her texting and data back on her phone she would need to apologize to me. I have smart limits on my phone where I can turn my girls stuff off with a click of a button. This is why my second daughter left her second period class crying. She came to my class and I sent my students to the class next door and we sat down and had a great conversation. She really vented and told me how frustrated she was and irritated about how her parents act like children and she is sick of it. I was able to explain to her what was going on and how we are doing counseling and what Al-Anon was. She told me that she is stressed out and doesn't feel like she has anyone normal to rely on other than her boyfriend that lives two hours away and they text all the time. We talked about my frustrations and what I am going through and we talked about how we both were going to make conscious changes on how we treat each other even if we are stressed out. This is when she was telling me she didn't want to hear about other peoples problems. By the time the talk was over we were laughing and hugging. It was the first time that she has ever truly opened up and told me how she was feeling. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get my girls to give Al-Anon a chance? I am going to text them the link and hopefully they will check it out. My oldest didn't say anything about it when I suggested it so hopefully she will check it out. Thank you for your support.
-- Edited by CEH on Thursday 15th of September 2016 02:40:12 PM
I also slipped in program speak at every chance I got without giving the program credit. When finals would come, I would suggest they focus on the here and now and first things first. So on it goes....
We can't fix our children any more than we can fix our spouses. We can only encourage, respect, and love them as best we know how. ODAT.
Hi Chrystal That sound intense. I do understand your daughter's reaction to alateen. That was my first response to alanon.
It was explained to me that the program was developed to help families of alcoholics. In alateen the main point is to grow and develop new tools to live by so as to have a constructive positive life and to have a support system of like minded others who truly understand.
I would get some literature such as:" Alcoholism the Family disease" and the " alateen One Day at a Tme reader. These could help to open the door to a better understanding.
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Iamhere and hotrod,
Thank you both. I will do just that.