Yep, that's me. Having a lovely day. I woke up, came out to my kitchen which partner had insisted on cleaning after dinner while I got the kids ready for bed, and discovered there is a huge difference in understanding of " cleaning the kitchen" between us. The old grumble box started in my head of, wtf, if I want it done I have to do it all by myself and a rehearsal of no, I'll do it because you don't know how to wipe the table down, etc etc. Admittedly, the grumble box was on low volume, but I heard it nonetheless. I go to make myself a coffee to discover No Milk, and remember Someone drinking it by the Entire Cupful last night, clearly not thinking about cereal For The Children today and boy, that grumble box is threatening to turn me into Super Witch with a B. So, I dress the kids we go for a walk, coffee happens, a toy barbie car is discovered, we drop into a couple of disability agencies that have been here as long as we have and come home to play outside. I discover that the milk drinking non table wiping person, has thoughtfully removed a whole lot of garbage I thought I'd need a skip for, and realise he must have done it at 4am while I was still sleeping, before catching his train to spend his day carrying steel beams and bent over tying them. And I'm grateful to this programme and my fellowship for giving me a remote that turns down the grumble box, allows me to have a lovely day and see the good stuff my anger used to blind me to at best, and destroy at worst. Wishing all a lovely day.

((A41)) Thank you for sharing your beautiful day. I love turning down the volume on the "grumble box" Before alanon I never knew I had a volume control button on that box because as soon as I had a thought. it jumped right out of my mouth as a perfect reaction I love responding from a sane place , as you have done. Good job It works well

(((Hugs))) - I too love the grumble box and volume control. Sounds like you did super well and glad that you had a great day! You made me chuckle because I can remember some major reactions from me before program about no milk for breakfast!! Something so small can cause great chaos when you and the kids need to be some place.....grateful to be on the back side of that now.

Keep working it - looks great on you!

Sometime within the last three years I actually took a photo of the sink and texted it with some choice words. I was so mad. Martyr me is never far away, eyes of fire are lurking. I need this programme like I need air. It was never really about the sink or the milk for me. Everything had become symbolic of the isms and I'm glad

I'm glad that's not the case now.

Thank you for the grumble-box name - it sure does what it says on the tin, boxes me in!!!
Have a great day today

Great share. thank you. I too love the thought of a grumble box in my head that I can choose to turn the volume down on. Have a great day!

Love it, Wow, Ive got that exact same box too, need to use my remote much more often though.x

thanks so much for the share I really loved it. Grumble box made me smile too