Morning (((Kids)))! The list of what we learn is exciting. Take the first thing they tell us we'll learn. "Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people." The way to learn that will require my participation in and commitment to the program. It's my job to do the learning. My particular brand of holier than thou has prevented me from taking responsibility for my self and my reactions, such is the nature of being taught to react and that woundedness (is that a word) as a state of integrity was a livable place. Alcoholism is a poor teacher. Today instead of reacting I will take a second to think and then respond if I feel one is necessary. I'm learning that not all comments, behaviors, gestures, stoney silences, etc. require a response from me. What a relief!? Thanks for being here.
a4l said
Sep 5, 2016
So beautifully true geems. I love when we get to the parts that are hard and decide, you have no power over me, I no longer have to do what I've always done. Today is such a great gift thanks for the share.
hotrod said
Sep 5, 2016
Great reminder Geems. "Not Reacting" is the key to maintaining my serenity .
I had a terrific example of this last night at a Family Birthday dinner. I did not pollute the party environment with my judgments, criticism or sarcasm as I had done in the past, instead I used the Serenity Prayer often and a good time was had by all myself included. :)
Thanks for being here and sharing your wisdom
Jill said
Sep 5, 2016
"I did not pollute the party." Let that be my epitaph.
Lyne said
Sep 5, 2016
Growing up with abuse and then emerged in addiction relationships did not teach me to have a self and make good decisions for me. I was drowning in the water, trying desperately to get out. For all the effort I made to change and influence others, all it did was make me sicker and sicker. It took alanon to show me the way to change myself, which did not make sense at first, but now I have a much better life. If my spouse continues to abuse herself with food and alcohol, after 20+ years of trying to change her, I now only try to change myself. I can be serene with the tidal wave around me. Amen. Thanks alanon, Lyne
geems said
Sep 5, 2016
Thanks you for giving your recovery experience and wisdom so freely. I'm humbled to be here.
missmeliss said
Sep 5, 2016
Learning that I didn't and don't have to attend every argument I am invited to....absolute gold
(((Geems)))
Iamhere said
Sep 5, 2016
The first 'aha' moment for me was the three C's. That gave me the ability to breathe deeply for the first time in a long, long while. And then - when I opened my mind, it seems things started peeling away and more soaked in. I love this topic and it really, really helped me to PAUSE and then often just be still. There was so much crazy-making around here that when I got quiet and just started pausing, praying, watching, observing, it became more and more clear to me that I had a part in all the craziness!
Morning (((Kids)))! The list of what we learn is exciting. Take the first thing they tell us we'll learn. "Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people." The way to learn that will require my participation in and commitment to the program. It's my job to do the learning. My particular brand of holier than thou has prevented me from taking responsibility for my self and my reactions, such is the nature of being taught to react and that woundedness (is that a word) as a state of integrity was a livable place. Alcoholism is a poor teacher. Today instead of reacting I will take a second to think and then respond if I feel one is necessary. I'm learning that not all comments, behaviors, gestures, stoney silences, etc. require a response from me. What a relief!? Thanks for being here.
I had a terrific example of this last night at a Family Birthday dinner. I did not pollute the party environment with my judgments, criticism or sarcasm as I had done in the past, instead I used the Serenity Prayer often and a good time was had by all myself included. :)
Thanks for being here and sharing your wisdom
(((Geems)))
Great thread (((Geems))) - great awareness!