The other day I heard from my attorney and we are another step closer to having things pushed through court. The last court appearance hopefully ever .. however .. LOL .. time will tell.
I'm waiting for things to seriously blow up on my X in regards to money with the wife. You know it doesn't matter and I'm sure somehow this is my fault in his world it has nothing to do with his lack of transparency, the lying, I believe the continued drinking. Once again hiding things such as the fact he got a 2+$ an hour raise. My favorite comment from her recently was "without communication there can be no healing" .. Umm .. my response was without transparency there is no honesty and there is no communication worth having. I have not heard back from her especially given she knows exactly what I'm talking about with the 2$ hour raise they tried not to talk about. LOL .. whatever ..
Well, all I can say is I'm so glad I no longer live in the state of Illinois .. holy cow that is going to be a seriously HUGE mini explosion of nuclear proportion. I think his attorney is going to tell him these are the numbers deal with it. Which I'm actually afraid for his attorney, my X has a tremendous amount of rage towards his attorney that he has in the past verbalized to me.
There is a lot X blames his attorney for .. having to pay child support (even those that's a law .. LOL), the money he owes (that's not his fault after all he was following his attorney's advise), the TRO and violation (that was the kids fault and mine), the fact he lied to his current wife (my fault), the fact he's choosing not to be transparent now (that's the system's fault it's completely unfair refer to all of the reasons before). I actually am concerned about that I'm waiting for a text from him when he hears the final numbers he's not going to be happy. I don't think he's expecting the amounts to go up at this point. I'm looking at close to 100$ a week more that's very huge for the kids and I. It offsets what I'm having taken out of my check for insurance, and other benefits for the kids and I. I am doubling up on insurance for the eye glasses and dental and also we can start working out at a gym at a very discounted rate so the kids are very excited to be able to have somewhere to go over the weekends .. should be a lot of fun.
So now I wait for the mini nuclear explosion that is going to happen .. there is no IF it's when. I'm getting that feeling again .. ugh. I know him way to well.
Anyway, my sponsor is still very sick :( I'm so sad. Please send prayers of healing as well as relief for her pain. Out of anyone of this world I do not understand the lesson that she is suppose to have and honestly I feel angry (feeling not a fact .. LOL .. it's an appropriate feeling too, I want to rage at God and spit into the wind .. yet I already know the end results from that) about it that after everything she has been through she must endure this as well. She is surrounded by family and loved ones. I'm grateful for that and I'm very grateful I got to spend some time with her when I came to visit. I love that lady, if I could have picked my family I would have chosen her for my mom. This is soul shattering.
Thanks in advance for reading my wandering thoughts so early in the morning .. LOL.
Hugs S :)
Doingmybest said
Aug 25, 2016
Oh how difficult it is with divorce and child support issues. I do not envy anyone dealing with this part of life. I have seen so much anger and resentment on both sides and neither is pretty. I pray your family will have a peaceful resolution and all will be well. I also pray your sponsor has peace and pain free days ahead. I do not remember her condition so I can't really comment directly on it, but pain as you describe is a horrible condition that I wish on no one.
All my best.
Iamhere said
Aug 25, 2016
Hey Serenity - how nice it will be when you are on the other side. I've watched you go through this and continue to grow - what a miracle in progress to witness. I'm sending prayers to you and yours for a pleasant finish and also prayers for your sponsor. I understand the anger at God - I've been there a few times over things that made no sense to me whatsoever. May her pain be relieved and may she find peace in her journey. (((Hugs)))
andromeda said
Aug 25, 2016
I' m so sorry for your sponsor and her struggle. I get it. Sending you lots of hugs and support today!
SerenityRUS said
Aug 25, 2016
Thanks everyone,
I have been doing this for 5 years now and I'm just over it. My frustration is beyond the limit and I just want my X to leave us alone and move on. He's already remarried so what is the big deal?
Anyway, nothing is moving at the rate I want it to move at .. LOL .. so go figure .. nothing new there .. LOL!
Knowing my friend is hurting is really difficult right now, it just sucks she is in pain. Heal her or take her however for goodness sake stop making her suffer.
Hugs S :)
Iamhere said
Aug 25, 2016
(((Hugs))) - continued prayers for your friend....I do understand - it's been a trying week around here - 2 friends lost their mothers and 1 friend lost his wife. I've been sad for the loss but grateful they are now pain-free and resting in peace. Positive thoughts your way too - I get the 'rate I want it to move at'....that's me to a T!
The other day I heard from my attorney and we are another step closer to having things pushed through court. The last court appearance hopefully ever .. however .. LOL .. time will tell.
I'm waiting for things to seriously blow up on my X in regards to money with the wife. You know it doesn't matter and I'm sure somehow this is my fault in his world it has nothing to do with his lack of transparency, the lying, I believe the continued drinking. Once again hiding things such as the fact he got a 2+$ an hour raise. My favorite comment from her recently was "without communication there can be no healing" .. Umm .. my response was without transparency there is no honesty and there is no communication worth having. I have not heard back from her especially given she knows exactly what I'm talking about with the 2$ hour raise they tried not to talk about. LOL .. whatever ..
Well, all I can say is I'm so glad I no longer live in the state of Illinois .. holy cow that is going to be a seriously HUGE mini explosion of nuclear proportion. I think his attorney is going to tell him these are the numbers deal with it. Which I'm actually afraid for his attorney, my X has a tremendous amount of rage towards his attorney that he has in the past verbalized to me.
There is a lot X blames his attorney for .. having to pay child support (even those that's a law .. LOL), the money he owes (that's not his fault after all he was following his attorney's advise), the TRO and violation (that was the kids fault and mine), the fact he lied to his current wife (my fault), the fact he's choosing not to be transparent now (that's the system's fault it's completely unfair refer to all of the reasons before). I actually am concerned about that I'm waiting for a text from him when he hears the final numbers he's not going to be happy. I don't think he's expecting the amounts to go up at this point. I'm looking at close to 100$ a week more that's very huge for the kids and I. It offsets what I'm having taken out of my check for insurance, and other benefits for the kids and I. I am doubling up on insurance for the eye glasses and dental and also we can start working out at a gym at a very discounted rate so the kids are very excited to be able to have somewhere to go over the weekends .. should be a lot of fun.
So now I wait for the mini nuclear explosion that is going to happen .. there is no IF it's when. I'm getting that feeling again .. ugh. I know him way to well.
Anyway, my sponsor is still very sick :( I'm so sad. Please send prayers of healing as well as relief for her pain. Out of anyone of this world I do not understand the lesson that she is suppose to have and honestly I feel angry (feeling not a fact .. LOL .. it's an appropriate feeling too, I want to rage at God and spit into the wind .. yet I already know the end results from that) about it that after everything she has been through she must endure this as well. She is surrounded by family and loved ones. I'm grateful for that and I'm very grateful I got to spend some time with her when I came to visit. I love that lady, if I could have picked my family I would have chosen her for my mom. This is soul shattering.
Thanks in advance for reading my wandering thoughts so early in the morning .. LOL.
Hugs S :)
All my best.
I have been doing this for 5 years now and I'm just over it. My frustration is beyond the limit and I just want my X to leave us alone and move on. He's already remarried so what is the big deal?
Anyway, nothing is moving at the rate I want it to move at .. LOL .. so go figure .. nothing new there .. LOL!
Knowing my friend is hurting is really difficult right now, it just sucks she is in pain. Heal her or take her however for goodness sake stop making her suffer.
Hugs S :)