i had a major slip today. everything was going great my a and i had plans today then we get a phone call. from his mother and shes screaming and crying and all this crap. so we speant the entire day over there fighting. my a totally but himself on the backburner to  tc of his mom and didnt get it that i wanted to get the hell out of there because it was stressing him out and me out and we needed to focus on our own lives. she has a pill addiction and has agreed to go to detox tomorrow. so good, so why couldnt we just have continued with our plans then? no our whole day had to revolve around her and we got nothing done. my a treated me horrible all day because he was so stressed out and i didnt remove myself from the situation. i chose to stay because my stupid thoughts made me think if i go home he will stay there and relapse. all the time i can tell myself im powerless and i need to tc of me but then when the moment comes its like i go braindead. we are home now finally and only have an hour together before i go to bed because i have to get up at 5am. tomorrow is gonna be so much worse but at least i will be no where in site. im taking care of me tomorrow. im going to work until 1:30 then going to a dinner theater with my best friend till 11pm. my a will have to deal with his mother alone. i have to keep in mind he will drink or do coke if he wants to. nothing i can do. so pray for me to stay sane i sure am.

((((notso)))
You got it -sure will -lots of well wishes your way
Please enjoy tomorrow -so gald you are doing something positive, it's for you

(((((((Notsonew)))))))))))

Remember it is progress not perfection. We all have days we slip up, no matter how much we know.

Glad you are making tomorrow a day about you. Have a lot of fun, you deserve it!

                                       Love Jeannie

Boy do I relae lady. My a and his mom have a sicko relationship too.She is also addicted to perscrip. drugs. I cannot say how many times there would be something that was for me, or I had a surgery or I was sick, that my A or his mom would always have something more important. Always said i was an afterthought. I loved reading what you are doing tomorrow, good for you. Don't allow anything to stop ya. I am sure the disease will do its best to. love,debilyn

(((((((Notso)))))))

You know what to do!  Keep the focus on you tomorrow and tc.  Have a better day and know we are here for ya.

 

Julia

Hey ((nsn))

Don't beat yourself up.  Be gentle with yourself.  The 3A's are awareness - which it sounds like you are aware now - acceptance & action - You are already taking action tomorrow & planned ahead to take care of you.  Good for you!

Prayers going up for ya,

Cedarpines

Hey NSN,

We all have slips, you did great to know so soon and to take action so quickly.

Have fun tomorrow !  :)

Bob

(((((((((((((NSN)))))))))),

Remember, progress, not perfection.

I hope you have a great day tomorrow.

Much Love,

Aloha NSN...

Ever hear that alert that comes over the radio...the one that starts with and steady tone for 15 seconds or so?  Then the announcer comes on and says, "This is a test.  This is ONLY a test."  I like that one cause when it hits the fan and afterwards I get to ask myself, "How did I do? and How bad could it have been? and What other things could I now practice?   Recovery is really progress.  I've never seen perfection.  (I think that perfection is an illusion.) 

I read your post and imagined a football game and the score was Addict/Alcoholic 7, NSN 0 and the game wasn't over another kickoff was coming.  Remember that you are powerless AND human.  Get a Higher Power to lateral off to when you are about to get tackled.  You can be had by the alcoholic, addict or just about any person or thing.  Accept it and then let it go. There is so much more to learn.  Stick around and practice what is working for others and you will be amazed.   ((((hugs))))

Have a great time at dinner and the show.

Dear NSN, So glad you post here, I love to hear from you. Agree with all that has already been said. Keep it in the day. If you can, (maybe you already have!), get that little Just For Today Card. When I get desperate, I read it, over and over, and I do it, to the letter!! find it helps me. Tomorrow is tomorrow, you have done your best, for now, if you made mistakes, so what? you human. Start again tomorrow, and, if it starts badly, start again!!!! We are not perfect Lots of love, Flora xxxx