When I first meet my husband I didn't want to leave his side for any amount of time. I would call him all the time. He would do his stuff drink/drug I thought if I would give him attention that he would stop doing all the nonsense. Well then I went on depression meds some work some didn't I wanted to change who I was so I got alot of piercing stomach, nose and some more. I thought maybe I deserve the pain because I was doing something wrong. I dyed my hair maybe he would change. No changing. Well I have continue to take my depression meds which have helped me.
Then I came to alanon online and then face to face and then after some time I was able to leave his side. I was still calling all the time in the begin. I was going to the program for a while and then he stop drinking so I thought I didn't need the program any more. So I slowly stop going, here and there I would go.
I got a sponsor in March and started to go more often then I was in the begin. After a while I was getting comfortable not being around him 24/7. The only time I was away was when I had to go to work or the doctor/parnets for my meds.
Todays day I have been able to go without calling him for more time. I spend time with out him and don't feel guilty about it. It took some time but I was able to do it. I have now have a great sponsor who is online but has helped me alot. I also have a awsome friend that I meet here in these rooms who has helped me so much.
So if you are just starting out in the program give the program a try. As they say keep an open mind and u will learn from other people. In the begin I didn't want to go to face to face I thought the internet was fine and they push me into going to a face to face meeting which was good I need the push. I am happy they did it. I have built a great support system that is very strong and very helpful to have. So I suggest if ur new get a sponsor and set up a good support system that will understand u.
-- Edited by nycbt at 10:39, 2006-01-04
megan said
Jan 4, 2006
Great progress NYCBT!
It is so good to read your progress and see how far you have come.
You are working the alanon program very hard and are a great example of taking care of yourself.
You have built a strong support system and you are getting stronger all the time
(You even became Guru) :)))))
Good work!
In support
Megan
captcodee said
Jan 4, 2006
((((NYCBT))))
You are SO right!
Every time I go to f2f meetings again, life gets so great.... then I stop, cause I am "too busy".
Then I wonder why I feel so crappy inside and all that BS.
It is cause NOBODY understands, nobody can be as compassionate as the people in Alanon. For me, it is the only place in the world that I can be me, and people like to be around me!!
So, why am I not going back right now? Cause it is too far, can't find a babysitter, don't want to drive, it's been a month.....
If i were an alcoholic I would find a way... Hell, I found ways to find my alcoholic that were harder than getting to a meeting... YIKES!
Happy New Year my friend, and keep up the good outlook this year... People like me feed off your positive attitude!
When I first meet my husband I didn't want to leave his side for any amount of time. I would call him all the time. He would do his stuff drink/drug I thought if I would give him attention that he would stop doing all the nonsense. Well then I went on depression meds some work some didn't I wanted to change who I was so I got alot of piercing stomach, nose and some more. I thought maybe I deserve the pain because I was doing something wrong. I dyed my hair maybe he would change. No changing. Well I have continue to take my depression meds which have helped me.
Then I came to alanon online and then face to face and then after some time I was able to leave his side. I was still calling all the time in the begin. I was going to the program for a while and then he stop drinking so I thought I didn't need the program any more. So I slowly stop going, here and there I would go.
I got a sponsor in March and started to go more often then I was in the begin. After a while I was getting comfortable not being around him 24/7. The only time I was away was when I had to go to work or the doctor/parnets for my meds.
Todays day I have been able to go without calling him for more time. I spend time with out him and don't feel guilty about it. It took some time but I was able to do it. I have now have a great sponsor who is online but has helped me alot. I also have a awsome friend that I meet here in these rooms who has helped me so much.
So if you are just starting out in the program give the program a try. As they say keep an open mind and u will learn from other people. In the begin I didn't want to go to face to face I thought the internet was fine and they push me into going to a face to face meeting which was good I need the push. I am happy they did it. I have built a great support system that is very strong and very helpful to have. So I suggest if ur new get a sponsor and set up a good support system that will understand u.
-- Edited by nycbt at 10:39, 2006-01-04
Great progress NYCBT!
It is so good to read your progress and see how far you have come.
You are working the alanon program very hard and are a great example of taking care of yourself.
You have built a strong support system and you are getting stronger all the time
(You even became Guru) :)))))
Good work!
In support
Megan
((((NYCBT))))
You are SO right!
Every time I go to f2f meetings again, life gets so great.... then I stop, cause I am "too busy".
Then I wonder why I feel so crappy inside and all that BS.
It is cause NOBODY understands, nobody can be as compassionate as the people in Alanon. For me, it is the only place in the world that I can be me, and people like to be around me!!
So, why am I not going back right now? Cause it is too far, can't find a babysitter, don't want to drive, it's been a month.....
If i were an alcoholic I would find a way... Hell, I found ways to find my alcoholic that were harder than getting to a meeting... YIKES!
Happy New Year my friend, and keep up the good outlook this year... People like me feed off your positive attitude!
Aron