For anyone that it was in the chat room last night, I apologize, especially to you iabob.

I have been hurt & upset all week, I went off like a roman candle but there is no excuse for my behaviour, I have no right to take it out on anyone.

I is hard being abused & hurt, we become like dogs sometimes, we bite back, I am human & made a mistake, I over reacted.  Sorry to anyone that was hurt by it.

I feel awfully ashamed, not my usual - good behaviour, sorry.    It happened a few times in the very beginning, I would be so distraught, someone would say, "hi" and I would freak out.  I don't expect anyone to respond...  I made a mistake & figured I had better post about so I can move on.

-K

-- Edited by kitty at 14:22, 2005-12-30

Hey ((((Kitty)))) we love ya!  We've all had our mistakes, our "slips" in program - lord knows I've had quite a few.. lol.  The really wonderful thing about program is that it teaches us compassion, tolerance and humility.  It helps us to look at ourself - and when I'm looking at myself and seeing these defects of character that I am now working on, it also helps me to be compassionate for others who are doing the same.  I see how I can slip and react at times, so I am more aware when others do the same, aware that it is just a slip and so I don't take it personally, knowing none of us are perfect and that we're all just trying to work the program.  Maybe at times we all need a good rant just to get it out in a safe environment.  If I want others to be compassionate and understanding to me when I'm feeling that way, then I must be the same for them, right?  What I've learned here is, I can only be hurt if I allow myself to take it personally what another says.  It helps when I remember the lines "what others think of me is none of my business" and "QTIP - Quit Taking it Personally."  Goes along with "take what you like (can use) and leave the rest."  Compassion and understanding can sure go a long way in helping us to deal with ourself and others, and to help in keeping us calm and serene during any "storms" we encounter.  *wink*  Luv ya!

Kis

(((((((Big hugs, Kitty)))))), I was in chat room - but am not offended - I have been distraught, at times, thankfully less and less. Please come back into the room - when you can. Think you a big person, for the public apology. Lots of love, Flora xxxx

Kitty,

I was not in chatroom at the time u are talking about, but what I do know is, we are all in Alanon cos we are vulnerable and need support - and thats what the room is for.  We all have offdays when everything just gets too much for us and we maybe need to blow off a little steam - the good thing about the room is we can blow off steam at people who know just how it feels to feel like that - we are all human and can all only carry so much - don't feel bad, we all need to release stuff  - the great thing is we can be there to be each others buffers for those times.

Take care of yourself, and the one thing I had a friend say to me that has been really important ot me is - remember its ok to not be ok!!

Love n Light

 

(((kitty)))) Sometimes stuff just happens and maybe sometimes for a reason. Who knows, maybe someone, somehow benefited from your rant, perhaps someone learned to think before they speak , another learned tolerance, another learned that you can try to love someone right out of a rant :) It's all good (((kitty))) Love, Christy