My husband has too much time on his hands. He has not been working in a while maybe only on a tue or sat and the rest of the time he has been home. So therefore he has been home all day long. I can't prove it however I know that in the past he has gotten into alot of troblue. Last night when I came down into the hallway it smelled like someone was just smoking pot, but why would someone do it in plain sight. I however know that smell. I told myself not to make a big deal about it. Last night he went out and didn't come home until after I went to bed. He was putting something together and then disappered and we I went to bed he was gone. I did call him alot yesterday 6 times, 3 times when he went out yesterday. I have slip alittle.
Dolphin123 said
Dec 22, 2005
NYCBT,
Remember progress not perfection. We all have slips from time to time. Living with active addiction is crazy making!
You are doing great by coming here to vent. We are always here to listen.
Much Love,
maresie said
Dec 22, 2005
I have definitely been in the control mode of trying to call my boyfriend a lot. He rails against that and uses it as a way to act out.
Now I am in the mode of not calling him and I just expect him at different times. I am trying to work out my own resentment at what he does at Christmas. We have been together for 5 years. Every holiday, Easter, Christmas, whatever he goes to his mother's. I no longer go to his mother's with him because I feel trapped there and if I go the visits are much much longer.
I want to blame him for my not having a good Christmas. Really it is up to me to set up a Christmas I can live with. Of course when I have the focus on him I am not doing anything to make next year the kind I want.
Maresie.
leo said
Dec 22, 2005
NYCBT,
You have only slipped a little because he is acting differently and arousing your suspicions. If he does do things that you are uncomfortable with that you feel may be not legal put up your boundaries. You don't have to accept it in your house if you don't want to. If your gut feeling is telling you it is not right you can act on it. His actions could implicate you. Remember you are important too. Take care of yourself first. Luv Leo xx
NYCBT,
Remember progress not perfection. We all have slips from time to time. Living with active addiction is crazy making!
You are doing great by coming here to vent. We are always here to listen.
Much Love,
I have definitely been in the control mode of trying to call my boyfriend a lot. He rails against that and uses it as a way to act out.
Now I am in the mode of not calling him and I just expect him at different times. I am trying to work out my own resentment at what he does at Christmas. We have been together for 5 years. Every holiday, Easter, Christmas, whatever he goes to his mother's. I no longer go to his mother's with him because I feel trapped there and if I go the visits are much much longer.
I want to blame him for my not having a good Christmas. Really it is up to me to set up a Christmas I can live with. Of course when I have the focus on him I am not doing anything to make next year the kind I want.
Maresie.
NYCBT,
You have only slipped a little because he is acting differently and arousing your suspicions. If he does do things that you are uncomfortable with that you feel may be not legal put up your boundaries. You don't have to accept it in your house if you don't want to. If your gut feeling is telling you it is not right you can act on it. His actions could implicate you. Remember you are important too. Take care of yourself first. Luv Leo xx