DO'S--------------------

Forgive

Be honest with yourself

Be humble

Take it easy-----tension is harmful

Play------find recreation and hobbies

Keep on trying whenever you fail

Learn the facts about alcoholism

Attend Alanon meetings often

Pray

DONT'S--------

Don't be self -righteous

Try to dominate, nag, scold and complain

Lose your temper

Try to push anyone else but yourself

Keep bringing up the past

Keep checking up on the alcoholic

Wallow in self pity

Make threats you don't intend to carry out

Be over-protective

Be a doormat

Hope this helps.............................................gardengal 

 

 

Thank you Gardengal i needed to read this, my husband is trying to stay sober but is not in recovery and it is so frigging hard to stay focused on me.  But i'm trying and it was good to read this today so thanks.

Julie

Thanks Gg-goes on my breakfast table as reminder

toto

 

The Do's & Don'ts are some of the most powerful principles of Al-Anon, IMHO.  I cringe at some of them (Don't be a doormat) and struggle to be mindful of others (Play.)  Thanks for the reminder today, gardengal.

Thank you for this post gg,

It sure had alot of meaning to me. I needed to read it now too even though it is amost 3am in the morning. Such strong suggestions. your friend in recovery, cdb