I had a bit of a fall out today... my grandparents are still downsizing alanon,and saying why dont I hang around kids my age.hello kids my age are rebels,and do weird things.I don't want to be like that

My grandparents should be happy I am putting most of my time to something positive,and something that is going to help me.

I actually like alanon.It has helped me think out my thoughts,and taught me that I am not alone.

I just rolled my eyes while they were going on and on about alanon..they had the nerve to say that I don't want you to be around single parents,divorced parents,and so forth

I wanted to tell them well why do you let me go to my moms

oh well...I just have issues..same story everytime....

Lauren~

It's a shame Lauren.  While I understand their concern about you being around so many people not your age and the situations you can get into, they are probably also naive or ignorant to Alanon. 

I've have people who heard I'm in Alanon say "oh good they teach you to leave your alcoholic"  I've heard others say, "oh they frown upon divorce, they try to brainwash you into staying with your alcoholic". 

Heck I've even heard stuff that would make your gpartents concerns valid, that people hang out at alanon meeting to meet vunerable members of the oppostite sex. 

I know it sux that you can't make them understand what it means to you.  You are mature beyond your years on so many ways.  That's a great thing in some ways.  It's sad in another because you had to grow up before your time.  I don't know what to say except from a parent stand point, I know where they may be coming from, but I also know that they may be totally ingnorant to Alanon. 

Hang in there, {{Lauren}}

Love ya like your one of my own,

Your bump !  LOL

 

Lauren, Although Alanon is a great place, I can understands their concerns. I would have the same concerns if it were my son. Being home schooled doesn't put you in a big social circle like a high school would. I think they just want what is best for you and would like to see you with a well rounded social life. The best part of being your age is friendships, some will last a life time. You're really losing out by not enjoying this time in your life with people your own age. lol..and not all kids your age are rebels and do weird things. I know tons that are great kids. My house has a revolving door on it with kids your age passing thru almost daily. There are a couple piercings here and there, some jocks, some honor roll, some guitarists and drummers.. ..but I don't think they are any stranger then anyone else. Give other kids a chance.. have some fun!! Christy

(((((((((((Lauren))))))))))))),

I just wish I could be there to give you real hugs.

Love you bunches,

Maria

Hi Lauren,

Don't keep trying to please too many people.  Concentrate on what you are learning from al-anon and when you are ready you will forge the friendships.  Remember as Christy says it is okay to go and have some fun.  Maybe because of your background you are unwilling to place the trust in friends who have not experienced your childhood.  That is okay.  One day at a time.

Perhaps you could leave some al-anon literature laying around so that your grandparents could see the positive side of your meetings.  Luv Leo xx 

hi laurenashley

 

stay strong and keep your focus.

My husband used to give me crap about going to alanon too.

he said I would meet the dregs of society.

I told him, if so then I am one too.

 

i have met the best most honest, supportive people in this program

 

Follow your heart

I think you said you also go to f 2 f meetings?  If you do, have your grandparents attended with you?  Maybe you could invite them.  Sometimes we (parents/grandparents) fear what we don't know or understand.  It maybe a great opprotunity to share something of your life with them.  If they choose not to go then that's on them.  Hang in there.

Hugs Mary