I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a faucet and it is shut off till the drugs are gone and then the brain cells can flow again.
As I was talking, I was not thinking about what I was saying and was just letting my HP talk, and I said something which really made me think. I told her that before I asked my A to leave, I had been allowing my A to control my life and my kids’ lives when HE was NOT even able to control his own life. HOW STUPID IS THAT!!!!
I guess that is why we need to make boundaries and regain control of our own lives.
I know that since my talk I am thinking differently about my situation and pondering what lies in store for the future. That is up to me and my HP to decide… in good time.
For the present I will continue to keep the focus on me, and my kids, and keep doing all I can to become a better and stronger person.
Cyn said
Dec 1, 2005
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You know I spent the entire day trying to reword that phrase and now its in writing!! It really stuck with me - thank you!!
Cyn
kitty said
Dec 2, 2005
"I guess that is why we need to make boundaries and regain control of our own lives.
I know that since my talk I am thinking differently about my situation and pondering what lies in store for the future. That is up to me and my HP to decide… in good time."
hmm... wtvr u wrote... wasn't that stupid ~ I was married for over 4 yrs, divorced for 6 & just realized he was an addict I forgave him.
I don't think comparing ourselves is the point.
marmare said
Dec 2, 2005
Amazing what comes out of our mouths and then it all seems to make sense! Good for you! I have found letting life happen is a challenging feat but it can be done.
Hugs Mary
tea2 said
Dec 2, 2005
(((sandie))) Sometimes I find by openly talking things through or writing them down I get answers I didn’t even know I was looking for -Love those light bulb moments!
For the present I will continue to keep the focus on me, and my kids, and keep doing all I can to become a better and stronger person.
What more could anyone ask of you? By placing the focus on you, your children if they haven’t already begun to notice I’m sure will see a happier mom. You’re right it’s all in good time, go easy and please don’t forget to be gentle on you. Lots of well wishes,
tea2
seashell said
Dec 4, 2005
Boundaries is one thing that I need to continue to work on. I have come far in it from where I used to be with absolutely none. I just need to focus on me and what I need, and stand firm in the boundaries, don't react and carry on. Thanks for reminding me of that issue. I need to work on that again.
:)
You know I spent the entire day trying to reword that phrase and now its in writing!! It really stuck with me - thank you!!
Cyn
"I guess that is why we need to make boundaries and regain control of our own lives.
I know that since my talk I am thinking differently about my situation and pondering what lies in store for the future. That is up to me and my HP to decide… in good time."
hmm... wtvr u wrote... wasn't that stupid ~ I was married for over 4 yrs, divorced for 6 & just realized he was an addict I forgave him.
I don't think comparing ourselves is the point.
Amazing what comes out of our mouths and then it all seems to make sense! Good for you! I have found letting life happen is a challenging feat but it can be done.
Hugs Mary
(((sandie)))
Sometimes I find by openly talking things through or writing them down I get answers I didn’t even know I was looking for -Love those light bulb moments!
For the present I will continue to keep the focus on me, and my kids, and keep doing all I can to become a better and stronger person.
What more could anyone ask of you? By placing the focus on you, your children if they haven’t already begun to notice I’m sure will see a happier mom. You’re right it’s all in good time, go easy and please don’t forget to be gentle on you.
Lots of well wishes,
tea2
Boundaries is one thing that I need to continue to work on. I have come far in it from where I used to be with absolutely none. I just need to focus on me and what I need, and stand firm in the boundaries, don't react and carry on. Thanks for reminding me of that issue. I need to work on that again.
Hugs