A husband finally told his A friend that he cant pickup/bring him home every week couple times a week. Husband just twice sank money into his car for repairs. I had been warning him that this would happen for the past few months but he needed to find out on his own. Normally I would have paid these bills off myself but this time I didnt.
Husband has been good w/his drinking for the past wk. Yes I see the bottle (that I havent doctored) going down but he seems to be stopping himself before he gets obliterated!
Went back to a meeting yesterday but didnt share. Its going into my head (again) that I dont need Al-Anon. I dont honestly believe husband's drinking will stay on an even keel. I know if I stop working on myself I'll be running back here. So just want everyone to know Im still out here and for now life is ok.
Now if I can only get my body back in shape from eating too much chocolate cake on Thanksgiving! lol
megan said
Nov 27, 2005
Hi Barbara
It is so good to here that life is good for you.
You haven't paid the car repair bills and now your A is becoming more responsible with the car :)
You haven't doctored the booze and he is drinking less :)
Good work
megan
leo said
Nov 27, 2005
Barbara you are doing so well. I remember your first posting when you said you were watering down the alcohol. I used to do that too. Everyday you let your A be a little bit more responsible you are taking a bit of the burden off yourself. It is so hard to be patient when we want all the answers and everything fixed straight away. You should be proud of yourself.
Luv Leo x
bobump said
Nov 27, 2005
Barbara,
I did 1 month of Alanon on my A's first mega binge. Then she was hospitalized and also IOP'd in a MICA unit. Slowly thing got better in a way. Better was just less drinking but old comfortable unhealthy coping skills and relational behavoirs.
By not staying with Alanon I lost the opportunity to have 4 years of recovery under my belt.
In 1 month, alanon helped give me he strength to set healthy boundries. That was enough to impart changes in the household.
All I can tell you is I'm back here in alanon and wish I never took 'time off.'
A husband finally told his A friend that he cant pickup/bring him home every week couple times a week. Husband just twice sank money into his car for repairs. I had been warning him that this would happen for the past few months but he needed to find out on his own. Normally I would have paid these bills off myself but this time I didnt.
Husband has been good w/his drinking for the past wk. Yes I see the bottle (that I havent doctored) going down but he seems to be stopping himself before he gets obliterated!
Went back to a meeting yesterday but didnt share. Its going into my head (again) that I dont need Al-Anon. I dont honestly believe husband's drinking will stay on an even keel. I know if I stop working on myself I'll be running back here. So just want everyone to know Im still out here and for now life is ok.
Now if I can only get my body back in shape from eating too much chocolate cake on Thanksgiving! lol
Hi Barbara
It is so good to here that life is good for you.
You haven't paid the car repair bills and now your A is becoming more responsible with the car :)
You haven't doctored the booze and he is drinking less :)
Good work
megan
Barbara you are doing so well. I remember your first posting when you said you were watering down the alcohol. I used to do that too. Everyday you let your A be a little bit more responsible you are taking a bit of the burden off yourself. It is so hard to be patient when we want all the answers and everything fixed straight away. You should be proud of yourself.
Luv Leo x
Barbara,
I did 1 month of Alanon on my A's first mega binge. Then she was hospitalized and also IOP'd in a MICA unit. Slowly thing got better in a way. Better was just less drinking but old comfortable unhealthy coping skills and relational behavoirs.
By not staying with Alanon I lost the opportunity to have 4 years of recovery under my belt.
In 1 month, alanon helped give me he strength to set healthy boundries. That was enough to impart changes in the household.
All I can tell you is I'm back here in alanon and wish I never took 'time off.'
Bob