On Saturday the morning was ok. Then toward the evening my husband wanted to take the car and I said no I would drive him to his friends house. On our way to his friends he was presuring me to co-sign a car I said no. He was mad but he got out of the car and went to his friends. So when he was done at his friend house he started with the co-signing thing. I snaped and started to yell an scream, slam door and I said I would co-sing because I just wanted him to stop. I just couldn't take it any more. He wore me down. With the co-signing his name is going to be on the vechile so if he gets into an accident it will be in his name, drugs, drinkings whatever, my name will not be involved that way.
nmike said
Nov 21, 2005
Good for you. That doesn't seem like a slip but a good strong boundary. I yelled this weekend at my A. I am imperfect and I said what I needed to say. Sometimes they don't hear you unless you yell a little.
In support,
Nancy
Dolphin123 said
Nov 21, 2005
NYCBT,
It sounds like you did set a good boudary, as far as making sure you are protected if he was to get into an accident.
Remember, progress not perfection. When I realize that I lost my temper. I go do something for me, and then I am able to calmly talk to my "A". I realize that I am not perfect, and I can not always be the calm, patient, reasonable person I am trying to be.
I think you're doing great.
Much Love,
Much Love,
marmare said
Nov 21, 2005
You can change your mind! You have a right to do so.....I know from experience if it doesn't feel right in my gut than I will have regrets later on.....I have told my A that I have agreed with him at times to make him shut up.....LOL okay not funny but true...hang in there, make sure you are doing things because you want to.
Hugs Mary
Tiger2006 said
Nov 21, 2005
Marmare--I heard this in a meeting, maybe it will help you. "Only god is infinite, and that includes in the abilities. As a human, I will make mistakes...whether or not I learn and grow from them is totally different."
Good for you. That doesn't seem like a slip but a good strong boundary. I yelled this weekend at my A. I am imperfect and I said what I needed to say. Sometimes they don't hear you unless you yell a little.
In support,
Nancy
NYCBT,
It sounds like you did set a good boudary, as far as making sure you are protected if he was to get into an accident.
Remember, progress not perfection. When I realize that I lost my temper. I go do something for me, and then I am able to calmly talk to my "A". I realize that I am not perfect, and I can not always be the calm, patient, reasonable person I am trying to be.
I think you're doing great.
Much Love,
Much Love,
You can change your mind! You have a right to do so.....I know from experience if it doesn't feel right in my gut than I will have regrets later on.....I have told my A that I have agreed with him at times to make him shut up.....LOL okay not funny but true...hang in there, make sure you are doing things because you want to.
Hugs Mary
Marmare--I heard this in a meeting, maybe it will help you. "Only god is infinite, and that includes in the abilities. As a human, I will make mistakes...whether or not I learn and grow from them is totally different."
Keep comin back!