tomorrow is the day that my a is going to a concert with his drinking/drugging friends. my a said he will be designated driver and will not drink nor do drugs tomorrow. i do have fears this is just another binge. but for myself i have already made plans to go shopping with my bff and have a girls night. who knows we may even go to another f2f. i will keep busy and not worry. anything that happens is the choice of my a and in gods hand. im saying the words, tomorrow i will live by them.
ednaxray said
Nov 15, 2005
good for u!
it is hard to do but keeping busy really does help.
get yourself something exciting and do that meeting..
im proud of you, you sound good
sg said
Nov 15, 2005
Good for you! Make plans, don't worry about him. Get out and enjoy yourself. What will be will be.
Feather said
Nov 16, 2005
I too hope you have a great day out - you deserve it! Enjoy!
nycbt said
Nov 16, 2005
It is good that you have made plans to do stuff that is important. It is important to take care of yourself.
marmare said
Nov 16, 2005
Yeah!!!! It is hard when they are with friends that use, I live this at least once a week with my A. It is hard to stay focused when we think history will repeat itself. Good for you for making plans for yourself. This is the same thing I do for myself. Have fun!!!
Hugs Mary
cdb said
Nov 16, 2005
Hello notsonew,
Way to take care of you! :) You go girl :) Enjoy and try the invisible rubberband thing I do. When you start to think of him, pretend there is a rubberband on your wrist and take it and snap your mind back onto your moment and your fun :) Use your precious energy for you :) You so deserve this kind of night out! Wishing you all the best. Keep us posted. You show great progress! cdb :)
canadianguy said
Nov 16, 2005
Darn it - my first try got lost in cyber space, lol....
The cool thing about our recovery, is that when we fully accept our "powerlessness" and the Three C's, how can we logically or otherwise continue to 'take on' their responsibility of whether or not they drink or drug??
If he chooses to drink/drug, he would have done it anyway
If he chooses to abstain, he would have done it anyway..
"He will either drink/drug, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?" - Sounds to me, like you are going to take care of yourself, which is awesome!!
good for u!
it is hard to do but keeping busy really does help.
get yourself something exciting and do that meeting..
im proud of you, you sound good
Yeah!!!! It is hard when they are with friends that use, I live this at least once a week with my A. It is hard to stay focused when we think history will repeat itself. Good for you for making plans for yourself. This is the same thing I do for myself. Have fun!!!
Hugs Mary
Hello notsonew,
Way to take care of you! :) You go girl :) Enjoy and try the invisible rubberband thing I do. When you start to think of him, pretend there is a rubberband on your wrist and take it and snap your mind back onto your moment and your fun :) Use your precious energy for you :) You so deserve this kind of night out! Wishing you all the best. Keep us posted. You show great progress! cdb :)
Darn it - my first try got lost in cyber space, lol....
The cool thing about our recovery, is that when we fully accept our "powerlessness" and the Three C's, how can we logically or otherwise continue to 'take on' their responsibility of whether or not they drink or drug??
If he chooses to drink/drug, he would have done it anyway
If he chooses to abstain, he would have done it anyway..
"He will either drink/drug, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?" - Sounds to me, like you are going to take care of yourself, which is awesome!!
Tom