First, I would like to thnak you all for your posts. I had decided while I was in the attorney's office that I would give it unitl after the holidays to say anything. I had also mentioned it in conversations with my A, that maybe we should consider a formal separation he said to me:
"if you decide to do something like (see an attorney) I don't want to know about it. This (sobriety) is too new to me and I can't take the chance of making any major decisions"..
A tough place to be. Debilyn, you're right, no need to tiptoe around. But Lou, you are alos right sometimes when attorney's get involved, things take on a life of their own.
I know my options now. He has not (to date) done anything to jeopardize things that I know of. We have been maintaining a distance from one another. Basically, we cannot work on our marriage right now. It's not a possibility.
megan said
Nov 15, 2005
Hi Kim
I agree with keeping the information to yourself.
Keep working on yourself.
Good job that you are financially protected.
I went to see a lawyer after living apart for 3 months.
My husband was still actively drinking 24/7 and I wanted legal protection from the results of his actions.
The lawyer said that my state does not have seperation and the only protection that I had was divorce.
So I am getting a divorce.
My husband was served on 8/22 by the sherriff (my choice he was not picking up his mail)
Seeing a lawyer and getting a divorce can take as long as you need it to.
I would focus on yourself and today.
I would not mention it.
You have the knowledge. For today, maybe that is enough...
In support and recovery
Megan
Jeannie said
Nov 15, 2005
Kim,
Keep taking care of you.
His recovery is his business, but you have time.
You are right, he isn't capable of working on your marriage right now, he needs to focus everything on his recovery. he is very fortunate that you realize that.
First, I would like to thnak you all for your posts. I had decided while I was in the attorney's office that I would give it unitl after the holidays to say anything. I had also mentioned it in conversations with my A, that maybe we should consider a formal separation he said to me:
"if you decide to do something like (see an attorney) I don't want to know about it. This (sobriety) is too new to me and I can't take the chance of making any major decisions"..
A tough place to be. Debilyn, you're right, no need to tiptoe around. But Lou, you are alos right sometimes when attorney's get involved, things take on a life of their own.
I know my options now. He has not (to date) done anything to jeopardize things that I know of. We have been maintaining a distance from one another. Basically, we cannot work on our marriage right now. It's not a possibility.
Hi Kim
I agree with keeping the information to yourself.
Keep working on yourself.
Good job that you are financially protected.
I went to see a lawyer after living apart for 3 months.
My husband was still actively drinking 24/7 and I wanted legal protection from the results of his actions.
The lawyer said that my state does not have seperation and the only protection that I had was divorce.
So I am getting a divorce.
My husband was served on 8/22 by the sherriff (my choice he was not picking up his mail)
Seeing a lawyer and getting a divorce can take as long as you need it to.
I would focus on yourself and today.
I would not mention it.
You have the knowledge. For today, maybe that is enough...
In support and recovery
Megan
Kim,
Keep taking care of you.
His recovery is his business, but you have time.
You are right, he isn't capable of working on your marriage right now, he needs to focus everything on his recovery. he is very fortunate that you realize that.
praying that things work out for both of you.
Love Jeannie