I meet my husband six yrs ago and been married for about 15 months. At that time he was getting out of jail for drug problems. He was doing drugs and drinking. I went through alot of voliet times with him. We would actually physical wrestle on the group, yell scream push each other. My husband is a very verbal abusive. He says things to me to really upset me. The last year in Feb he stoped for 6 months and then he went back. He is now starting to do illegal stuff right now. Yesterday I took his key because I don't want it taken and I don't want to make that easy to do his stuff. Let them come to him or he find away to get there. So that means he is still going to do it and it is going to take alot longer but I am going to try and stay strong an not get upset when he takes off. I am going to try and not think about him all the time, because that is what makes me cry.
rosie light shines said
Nov 9, 2005
i am glad you are in the program..........he is responsible for his inventory......i am glad u are here taking care of YOU....your inventory.....
i know for me, if i don't set boundaries, and stand on them, i am on the ole merry go round again.....my favorite sayings are *what i permit...i promote* i become a volunteer in my own victimization......if he is not active in recovery, this is the kind of life he can only give 2 U....i know been there...done that....my A would NOT get into recovery, thus the craziness was constant.....i walked!!!! i told him he would have to be in recovery minimum 1 year for me to even THINK of taking him back...he didn't last 6 months.....i stayed gone!!!!!! i can only give you my take, what i did, i am SOO peaceful now without the A in my life......if i ever find anyone again, it won't be an A or an NA ever again.....give me a recovering coda/ or alanon/ or acoa ANY ole time....at least i can halfway deal with them....i am coda, and i work my program, and i have good to bring to the table now.....but an A or NA???? my daughter is a druggie....and if i were a guy, i would never want to be with her.....i love her to death, but when she is using, i stay away till she sobers up....but at least i can get away from her...i would never live with her....not EVER!!!!!!! take what works, leave the rest....rosie
Dolphin123 said
Nov 9, 2005
(((((((((((((NYCBT)))))))))))),
I am so glad you are here. When our "A"s are active in the ugliness it is so hard to watch them sink into it.
i am glad you are in the program..........he is responsible for his inventory......i am glad u are here taking care of YOU....your inventory.....
i know for me, if i don't set boundaries, and stand on them, i am on the ole merry go round again.....my favorite sayings are *what i permit...i promote* i become a volunteer in my own victimization......if he is not active in recovery, this is the kind of life he can only give 2 U....i know been there...done that....my A would NOT get into recovery, thus the craziness was constant.....i walked!!!! i told him he would have to be in recovery minimum 1 year for me to even THINK of taking him back...he didn't last 6 months.....i stayed gone!!!!!! i can only give you my take, what i did, i am SOO peaceful now without the A in my life......if i ever find anyone again, it won't be an A or an NA ever again.....give me a recovering coda/ or alanon/ or acoa ANY ole time....at least i can halfway deal with them....i am coda, and i work my program, and i have good to bring to the table now.....but an A or NA???? my daughter is a druggie....and if i were a guy, i would never want to be with her.....i love her to death, but when she is using, i stay away till she sobers up....but at least i can get away from her...i would never live with her....not EVER!!!!!!! take what works, leave the rest....rosie
(((((((((((((NYCBT)))))))))))),
I am so glad you are here. When our "A"s are active in the ugliness it is so hard to watch them sink into it.
You have us to lean on. Please take care of you.
Much Love,