It might seem alittle silly to talk about this but I set up my first boundary. Yesterday this girl wanted to order Chinese I said ok and then when we were figuring it all out she did not include the tip. I ask her why she didn't want to give a tip so she said they earn money why should she pay. So I thought it over and decided I wasn't going to order with her. She was upset but it was a start. So I told my sponsor this an she brought to my attention that i set up a boudary.
marmare said
Oct 28, 2005
Good for you!!!! I was a bartender years ago, and yes I made an hourly wage but the tips were what kept me and my four boys going. If you get good service then a tip is nice. Good for you on boundary setting. The more boundaries you set the easier it gets.
Hugs Mary
bubbles1990 said
Oct 28, 2005
Way to go nycbt Tips are in importian to those who serve us the only reason I don't tip someone is if there serves was really bad!!!
Way to go in seting your boundary for yourself that is great!!
Love ya ((((((((nycbt)))))) Hugs
Love bubbles123
Dolphin123 said
Oct 28, 2005
Good for you! Baby steps, and one day at a time!
Doesn't matter how big the steps are that you take, what matters is that you are taking them.
I'm so happy for you...remember, progress, not perfection!!
(((Hugs)))
Kathi
jrtjosey said
Oct 28, 2005
Isn't it funny how Alanon sneaks in your life?
josey
cdb said
Oct 29, 2005
Hello nycbt,
Wow, what a good example of what a boundary is. Boundaries are for us. This boundary must make you feel good about yourself as well as enter into your value system. You may in fact put out a good example for this other girl but don't know it yet. Way to work the program! cdb :)
rosie light shines said
Oct 29, 2005
GR8 job!!!! nycbt, you did set a boundary....LOVED it..... what a good start!!!!! it gets easier as you go..........ttyl/ rosie
Good for you!!!! I was a bartender years ago, and yes I made an hourly wage but the tips were what kept me and my four boys going. If you get good service then a tip is nice. Good for you on boundary setting. The more boundaries you set the easier it gets.
Hugs Mary
Doesn't matter how big the steps are that you take, what matters is that you are taking them.
Much Love,
nycbt,
HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY!!!!
I'm so happy for you...remember, progress, not perfection!!
(((Hugs)))
Kathi
Isn't it funny how Alanon sneaks in your life?
josey
Hello nycbt,
Wow, what a good example of what a boundary is. Boundaries are for us. This boundary must make you feel good about yourself as well as enter into your value system. You may in fact put out a good example for this other girl but don't know it yet. Way to work the program! cdb :)