A friend heard that I joined Curves, joined Church and went to an Al-Anon meeting. She invited me for a Girls Weekend away to chill. I'll enjoy the time shopping, having lunch out, chatting, etc. We're leaving Fri at noontime and returning Sun morn (told her I want to be back in time for Church).

DH will most likely have his drinking buddy spend the wknd w/him.

Im leaving DS13 in Gods hands, hoping he watches over him and keeps him safe. DS is old enough to take care of himself but shouldnt need to take care of his Dad too. Please assure me it will be okay.

Barbara,

I wish I could tell you everything is going to be okay, but I can't.

Sorry I am a little confused as to what DS and DH mean, but if I am right DS is your son? Anyway, you are right he shouldn't have to take care of his father. Is he able to make plans this weekend to get out of the house as well? Can he go to a friends house? Maybe you two can come up with a plan for him.

Take care of you, pray to your HP, and let your husbands actions go. I know that is easier said than done. Remember progress not perfection.

Have you gone to any meetings here or face to face? I would suggest that.

Keep Coming Back!

Much Love,

thats what we gotta do!!! take care of US...let the "A's"  take care of themselves.....i mean they are either going to drink or not drink.....my brother wrecked his car!!! told me about it and i said  "oh well,  glad U are not hurt, and  U didn't hurt anyone else"   i didn't say  "oh poor U.............."    i didnt' go there.....he is a big boy.....its his inventory not mine....rosie

Good for you!!! You deserve nice things for yourself!!!!  Have fun, savor every moment.  Your HP will do what's right for you.

Hugs Mary

Dear Barbara, Have been reading your posts - you surely deserve this time for yourself. Just a thought, take what you like, leave the rest - son only 13 - does he have someone to call, in an emergency? Or, some funds, just in case? Lots of love to you Flora xxxx

I just asked a neighborhood friend to call him Sat to make sure things are fine. Her DS is a friend of my DS too.

I'll use my friends cell phone to call home Sat and I'll leave her cell phone # w/DS

thank you

 

Go Barbara! Go! Go! No one can guarantee you that all will be well, but have a neighbor check on your son; covertly of course. No 13-year-old wants to know he is being looked in on purposely. Enjoy yourself, and try hard not to waste your precious time by worrying. HAVE FUN!!! Diva

Barbara - I can't assure you that it will all be okay, but I can assure you that it will "be what it will be"....

If we accept the three C's, and that we are powerless over others - we have to ALSO understand that we cannot cause, or be responsible for, their drunkenness OR their sobriety!!  You can't "keep your DS sober, any more than you can cause your DS to use".... Same thing goes for your DH.

So go enjoy your weekend, guilt-free.....  It sounds wonderful!!

Tom