I have been married to an A for almost three years now.  I love him so much.  At first I was one of his biggest enablers with all the feelings that go along with that....  I have come so far and I just love this book I am reading....  It described our marriage to a T.  I highly recommend it and would appreciate any comments anyone else has on this book.   Thanks so much.

Yes Tara, I also loved that book, and got a lot of valuable information from it...  It was quite enlightening to see that my fears & concerns were pretty evident in so many other cases as well....  I found the same thing when I read "Getting Them Sober" books, particularly volume one.

Take care

Tom

Hi Tara.

I have read, re-read, analyzed, studied, even ripped the damn thing up!  Isn't that book so darn accurate???  Every word in that book is what I waited to hear.  I was so releived to read the book, because I was glad that I was not totally Kooky, however, i was pissed off that my situation was not unique.  Reading The Dilema made me come to the understanding that I caused as much of the greif as my hubby did!

I also used The Dilema of the Alcoholic Marraige as a shoe in for discussion with my own family.  I feel like I am the first one to discover that alcoholism is a disease, and that these people need support, and that book has been a great reference for me.

I am glad you posted about that book.  That is something this site prospers well on is discussing CAL (conference Approved Literature) that ALL members can get a hold on...

(By the way, if you are interested in purchasing that book, or any other Alanon Conference Approved Literature, be sure to check out http://www.12stepforums.net/books.html
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Aron in the Mountains
(Captcodee)

You can also get most alanon books from your public library. For me, it was very liberating to walk in there baldfaced and take out a book about living with an A. (as if everybody in town didn't know anyway, with his car parked in front of the bar for hours and hours every day....)

Thanks Tara....

Your post encouraged me to purchase some literature and this was one of the books! 

I live in a small town too...everyone knows my husband is an Alcoholic....I feel for you....sometimes it's embarrassing, isn't it?