When I first came into these rooms I felt alone and frighten. I didn't think there was a person in this world that could help me. I thought I was in a gaint mess and it was sinking very fast.

I would be upset and start throwing stuff, glass, cutting my arm and so far. I would call him so much I thought my phone would explode.

Well thank goodness times have change. I am getting so far better at not calling him alot but of course I do still call him. I haven't really lost my tempter voilet in a while now which is good. This time I know that he is back drinking I have friends to help me through it.

I know some day i will be able to make the decision that is right for me but that it is going to take time. I have to work on being detached before I can decide whether to leave or stay.

((((NY)))) You sure have come a long way, and I'm proud to call you "friend" :) Keep at it, you're doing it girlfriend!!!!! Christy (Cjo)

Hi,

Hey last year when I went to jail for throwing a phone at my A, I voluntarily took an Anger Management course, and then the courts sent me to Domestic Violence Counseling for a year....let me tell you, I have learned the best tools.....I have found stuff online also....I learned that when I think I'm angry sometimes I am not acknowledging what feelings I am really having....like I may be tired, frustrated, hurt, or lonely, but I only expressed it as anger.  I also learned that some behaviors we have are learned and we can unlearn them....you sound like you are doing so good, I am finding it all takes time and to be gentle with the process...you should be very very proud of yourself!!!!!

Hugs Mary

 

You go girl! You are getting so much stronger. Remember don't rush, take a deep breath and keep taking those baby steps. It's hard work getting better. Be good to yourself. I'm proud of you. Live strong, Karilynn