My post actually starts after marmares reply :) The first one is about the awful things bedwetter wrote on the board today but most of the posts have now been deleted. cdb :)
I learned this in alanon as I would see my daughter while drunk out of her mind say things and do things that were totally shocking. When I learned to walk away or to ignore it and see it as the disease, I was able to keep my calm, my serenity and to not waste my energy on the situation or drama. WE did call the police too when she was a danger to herself and to others as sometimes we need to take action. Detatch by not getting involved in the situation but still care about the person I learned too. These hurtful posts by bedwetter are ones I choose to not even reply to. I will say prayers for the alanon person in his life instead and pray that all is well with her and that she is safe. I am not going to waste my precious energy over someone else's drama. cdb :)
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marmare said
Oct 11, 2005
I agree 100%. How are things with you cdb? My day has been long and my brain is busy. I am thinking I need to go home, cook a quick dinner and climb into my bed....
Hugs Mary
cdb said
Oct 11, 2005
Hello marmare,
Interesting you ask how I am :) Today I am surrendering my eating disorder/compulisive overeating to my HP. This is part of my step work and is a spiritual thing for me. My weight is causing some very risky health problems for me and if I plan to be around and chat, I need to make some serious changes soon. I have health problems anyway so exercise is difficult for me. I was in an eating disorder clinic 10 years ago and did lose weight without any form of exercise. I use to be a licensed nutritionist :) and also use to work for Weight Watchers. So, I have the know how. I just need to do the behavior change similiar to that of an alcoholic. I see a psychologist who has worked with me on this problem but only I can help myself just as an alcoholic. Food for me has been a main coping mechanism for me, especially now with mom's alzheimers and my daughter's alcoholism so I will use this board and chatroom for my main support system as I struggle to become a healthier me. :) Thanks for asking how I am. cdb :)
Emmie11 said
Oct 11, 2005
Cdb,
A close friend of mine has had very good luck with similar issues working the 12 steps through OA. I have heard from others in my f2f al-anon group that OA is closer to Al-Anon's program of recovery than many of the other offshoot programs, and it may be helpful to you too.
I am proud of you for the steps you are taking toward better self care.
emmie
canadianguy said
Oct 11, 2005
Great post CDB, and good for you with the self-care stuff....
We care about you too, and want you around, for a long, long, time!! You are well worth the effort of getting better, and feeling better about yourself...
My post actually starts after marmares reply :) The first one is about the awful things bedwetter wrote on the board today but most of the posts have now been deleted. cdb :)
I learned this in alanon as I would see my daughter while drunk out of her mind say things and do things that were totally shocking. When I learned to walk away or to ignore it and see it as the disease, I was able to keep my calm, my serenity and to not waste my energy on the situation or drama. WE did call the police too when she was a danger to herself and to others as sometimes we need to take action. Detatch by not getting involved in the situation but still care about the person I learned too. These hurtful posts by bedwetter are ones I choose to not even reply to. I will say prayers for the alanon person in his life instead and pray that all is well with her and that she is safe. I am not going to waste my precious energy over someone else's drama. cdb :)
-- Edited by cdb at 17:44, 2005-10-11
-- Edited by cdb at 17:50, 2005-10-11
-- Edited by cdb at 17:52, 2005-10-11
I agree 100%. How are things with you cdb? My day has been long and my brain is busy. I am thinking I need to go home, cook a quick dinner and climb into my bed....
Hugs Mary
Hello marmare,
Interesting you ask how I am :) Today I am surrendering my eating disorder/compulisive overeating to my HP. This is part of my step work and is a spiritual thing for me. My weight is causing some very risky health problems for me and if I plan to be around and chat, I need to make some serious changes soon. I have health problems anyway so exercise is difficult for me. I was in an eating disorder clinic 10 years ago and did lose weight without any form of exercise. I use to be a licensed nutritionist :) and also use to work for Weight Watchers. So, I have the know how. I just need to do the behavior change similiar to that of an alcoholic. I see a psychologist who has worked with me on this problem but only I can help myself just as an alcoholic. Food for me has been a main coping mechanism for me, especially now with mom's alzheimers and my daughter's alcoholism so I will use this board and chatroom for my main support system as I struggle to become a healthier me. :) Thanks for asking how I am. cdb :)
Cdb,
A close friend of mine has had very good luck with similar issues working the 12 steps through OA. I have heard from others in my f2f al-anon group that OA is closer to Al-Anon's program of recovery than many of the other offshoot programs, and it may be helpful to you too.
I am proud of you for the steps you are taking toward better self care.
emmie
Great post CDB, and good for you with the self-care stuff....
We care about you too, and want you around, for a long, long, time!! You are well worth the effort of getting better, and feeling better about yourself...
Awesome stuff!
Tom