husband quit drinking and is moody. when will his end?
hannv said
Oct 10, 2005
my husband quit drinkin about 3 weeks ago. he was drinking 6-22 beers a night. i told him if he didn't stop drinking for 2months i was leaving. i know he needs to wuit forever but we will work up to that. he is so moody when will it be out of hes system.
thanks
Christy said
Oct 10, 2005
hi hanny,
Is he going to AA or any treatment program? The support may help him work through his moodiness and give him tools to cope. Sober and recovery are not the same thing. To recover he must find out the underlying reasons for his need to drink and deal with those issues. Sober people that have not recovered are called "dry drunks" and all the old issues still remain to haunt them.
Christy
canadianguy said
Oct 10, 2005
Yes Hanny... it is a long process, even with AA & recovery in their lives.....It could easily be two years or more, even with a full-blown recovery program behind him! On his own, the statistics are not very promising.... there are some exceptions, but most end up relapsing, and even if they don't, the "dry drunk" behavior is almost as bad as the active drinking behavior!!
Take care of you, and work on your own recovery, via Al-Anon, etc.... Whatever else happens, you will be better prepared to deal with it..
Take care
Tom
WakingUp said
Oct 11, 2005
My understanding is that underneath the drinking are all the emotional problems that cause the drinking. Even with therapy, program, etc. those problems may remain. This is one of the many reasons that it is so important for we Al-Anons to work our own programs and to focus on ourselves. I keep reminding myself: "I am not the same person as my A. So if they are (moody, angry, snarky, depressed, whatever) that is not my business. My task is to focus on myself -- what makes me happy, what do I bring to life, what are my strengths and shortcomings, etc. It's certainly easier said than done, but I think we are worth it, right?
Yes Hanny... it is a long process, even with AA & recovery in their lives.....It could easily be two years or more, even with a full-blown recovery program behind him! On his own, the statistics are not very promising.... there are some exceptions, but most end up relapsing, and even if they don't, the "dry drunk" behavior is almost as bad as the active drinking behavior!!
Take care of you, and work on your own recovery, via Al-Anon, etc.... Whatever else happens, you will be better prepared to deal with it..
Take care
Tom
My understanding is that underneath the drinking are all the emotional problems that cause the drinking. Even with therapy, program, etc. those problems may remain. This is one of the many reasons that it is so important for we Al-Anons to work our own programs and to focus on ourselves. I keep reminding myself: "I am not the same person as my A. So if they are (moody, angry, snarky, depressed, whatever) that is not my business. My task is to focus on myself -- what makes me happy, what do I bring to life, what are my strengths and shortcomings, etc. It's certainly easier said than done, but I think we are worth it, right?