Hi Everybody- Have been reading the board faithfully the past 6 weeks or so(prior to this i was only one to read or post during a "bad spell"). Posting if I think I've got something to say. Its so interesting, this life of ours. I've been in the crazy day postings and the confused day postings and the sad postings. We all have our tales of unbelievable behavior and survival despite it all. Thank HP for alanon. thats all I can say. I've gone thru some crazy times the past 2 months--husband got car stolen at a gay bar (I did not know that he had sexual orientation issues--only drug and alcohol problems) The series of events that followed is sort of a blur. We are now in marriage counseling with a great therapist, my H is currently not using marijuana (his drug of choice) and I can honestly say that I have been blessed by this horrible crisis in my life. so many answers to soooo many questions. I have read so much, I have sought support. My H has done the same. All problems are not solved BUT we are so much farther than I could have ever imagined. Our relationship is stronger and more honest. I know the immediacy of wanting the problems to go away --but instant gratification is just a quick fix. I know that waiting and giving the answer time to develop is the right way. Alanon teaches us that. I do feel at Peace with my life today. I know that life can change and change andchange and we desperately need these tools for life that we learn here. gratefully- Jeanne