Well I guess if someone believes this is a healthy way to deal with a disease, then they do. Hi dear sis of alanon, no worries. I can see if someone would misunderstand!! Not like we are able to see each others purdy faces!! Ok this first line was meant if ANYONE believes this is healthy then they do!! Not up to me to judge, I would not argue it! For me, why bother being angry, mean, yelling, at a disease? would a person act this way towards cancer or ms? Diva I have trouble explaining this feeling i have. Alcoholism to me is like a rock. I would not be mean or mad or yell at a rock that rolled down a hill and landed on my foot. Maybe that is a better way to explain it. This is ME, how I got where I can detach. For me evil brings evil, yelling is not positive, tantrums are immature, my view only. Never meant at all that you or anyone was evil. I just feel evil if I yell or if I say things I don't mean, if I lose my temper I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do my best to be positive, becuz it makes ME feel better. I probably would have been healthier had i learned to vent some inside crap more. As it is a lot of my disability is from my body eating up on the inside! I don't get upset if something is late, or if someone messes up and it messes me up. I always say, no worries, no one is dead. Living thru my moms bc and death and watching my husbands struggles, believe me, a flat tire or being short changed, or pickles on my fish burger are not going to flip me out. lol Hey does not mean I don't blow it sometimes!! But if I do, I sure know now thru alanon how to get back on track. So ma dear I hope I did better this time!!! I found your post funny and I also thought how your attitude and humor gets you thru some tuff stuff. Good for your A for having so much more good time than hard!! thank you so much for reading my bs and now letting me fix my part of the faux paw... not spelled right. lol hugs, love,debilyn

Debilyn you gave me a smile. I like your "rock" analogy. And you are sooooo right. My sense of humor has carried me through the death of my parents, the death of my first husband who was the love of my life, raising my two dear sons alone, and now, last but not leas, an alcoholic second mate. There is humor to be seen in every situation. Don't get me wrong; the deaths of loved ones is certainly not funny, but if we keep on smiling, we make it. I talked to my sponsor last evening and promised her I would try to deal with this in a more quiet, understanding manner. So I'll give it a try. Should the situation arise and I have to use a lighter touch, I'll let all of you know how it works. With love and caring, Diva

OMG My first husband died, I raised my two kids alone then married this A too!!! NO wonder we bumped heads, we are twins in hell!!! hhahahaha I lost my mom and my dad just chooses to live with his new extremely young wife and ignores us. So lost him too!! thanks for putting up with me!! love,debilyn