Debilyn I did not say anywhere in my post that I thought my way was "healthy". But then nor do I think I am evil, nor do I think anything I do is evil. Lighten up. My way might not be your way, but so be it. I didn't bother to read the rest of your post. People with closed minds do nothing for me. Diva If my post would have been read by someone who had an open mind they would have finished reading it. I said this was MY view, no one elses. I also said at the end of my post, that I appreciated reading others points of view. Apparently others do not. I never point fingers, i never tell anyone else what to do. i do not judge. Just sharing my experience. I am also not mean. Also one thing about this site is we are usually very kind to one another, respecting our differences. If we feel hurt or misunderstand something we have the pm to go to, to speak privately. One thing i have learned thru alanon is that a lot of people here are hurting, so I find it best to think positive and not try to hurt someone on purpose. Love,debilyn

I read that thread and I felt your post was positive. It was said with love.

 

Take what you like and leave/heave/toss the rest.

 

Debilyn I offer you a most sincere apology. Your post caught me at a particularly vulnerable time, and I am afraid I responded badly. I stick by the fact that I am not evil nor is anything I do, and I did not say my way of handling things is healthy, but I nevertheless should have shown more respect for your response. I wish you nothing but the best of wishes, Diva

thank you, meant it to be!! But we all take things different. I am so glad we all can talk things out. Otherwise Diva and I woulda had to mud wrestle... love,debilyn