On Aug 5 my husband was acting kind of funny. He was talking about wanting to be with his old friends that he wasn't able to see them because they were drinking. He was thinking of smoking pot again and he was thinking of drinking again. He was sober for 6 months at this point.
On Aug 6 my husband again was acting funny and I was starting to worry that something was up. We were fighting in the car like we use too. We went down to an AA dance and went to see his newphew and his kids, we dance at the an had fun. I just had a werid feeling.
On Aug 8 he sent my flowers for one year being married and I thought that was very nice. We went out to diner and i had left my rings home by accident and he did get upset about that.
On Aug 9, he told me that he was going to go to the bank and I had a funny feeling but I ignored it. I really didn't want him taking my car. I wanted to go to a meeting that night. Well 7:00 came, I had to go to my meeting at 7:30, 8:00 came, 10:00 came, 12:00 came, and now since 7:00 I was panicking because I was calling him and he didn't answer the phone. I kept calling some people to talk to and I tried to keep calm but my mind was racing and I was driving myself very nuts. I called his phone all night long. I text message him to come home that I missed him. I missed him so much. Well 6 am came along and I got a call from him, I was mad but so happy to hear from him. I ask what happen and he told me that he was at a park and he feel a sleep.I was happy that I didn't cut my arm out of angry and didn't brak any glass, what I did do however was kept my poor mom up.
Here is also a posted from another time.
My husband has been sober for about 6 months. Then I have noticed things that were different. Some of his behavior reminded me of things that he just to be like. The way he would talk. Some of the comments he makes. However, I try not to think too much into it. I thought that maybe that the way he is now even though he is sober. We went to AC last Saturday, I was gambling at a machine for a while, I would go look for him, and he would be nowhere to be found. Well maybe he steps away. Well one time I found him and he has a cranberry drink and I tasted it but it tasted funny but I did not make a big deal about it. On Sunday we went to the shore to go to the boardwalk, play games and there was a place to go dancing it was a bar area. We paid the money to get in a then he went to get our drinks and I was standing by him and he got the same cranberry drink an I again tasted it and the same taste was there so I asked him if there was any alcohol in it and he said no, I called the bartender over to ask if there was alcohol in it and they said yes that is what he ordered. We end up leaving. Then yesterday he told me that he was going for bread and I didn't know at the time but he took my car, and was gone for 2hr. I was so mad. He came home drunk and then started with the yelling at the cursing and me. He blames me because his son was not letting him go outside so he took it out on me. I can't understand why I am staying with this. It was such a nightmare the last time. I was wondering what is wrong with me.I am waiting for the right moment and to see if I can take it again. I don't know but right now, I am nervous about what is going to happen tonight. I just to hate that I have to worry every day if it is going to be a good day or not.I do not know honestly, why I wouldn't give up the situation. I love him and I am so attached to him it isn't healthy.
Christy said
Sep 13, 2005
NY,
Slept in a park? Trust your instincts. If it walks like a duck..It's a duck.
As Haxi always says, watch the behavior...not the lip service.
Hang in there
Christy
sunny1 said
Sep 13, 2005
Dear Friend,
Trust your gut! It is GOD speaking to you. I too never liked to listen to my gut and reading your story was as if I had written it. Pour your love into you and dont waste it on him. Remember that an A will tell you what you want to hear to cover up. Do you know the 3 C's? How true is this, you didnt cause it, you cant control it and you will not cure it. You think you love him, maybe you do, but you need to look in the mirror and love yourself, you deserve more. It will only hurt for a moment not a lifetime. Good Luck.
Yvette
marmare said
Sep 13, 2005
We are smarter then we give ourselves credit for. If your gut is telling you something is not right......it's not right. Hang in there, do something nice for you.
On Aug 5 my husband was acting kind of funny. He was talking about wanting to be with his old friends that he wasn't able to see them because they were drinking. He was thinking of smoking pot again and he was thinking of drinking again. He was sober for 6 months at this point.
On Aug 6 my husband again was acting funny and I was starting to worry that something was up. We were fighting in the car like we use too. We went down to an AA dance and went to see his newphew and his kids, we dance at the an had fun. I just had a werid feeling.
On Aug 8 he sent my flowers for one year being married and I thought that was very nice. We went out to diner and i had left my rings home by accident and he did get upset about that.
On Aug 9, he told me that he was going to go to the bank and I had a funny feeling but I ignored it. I really didn't want him taking my car. I wanted to go to a meeting that night. Well 7:00 came, I had to go to my meeting at 7:30, 8:00 came, 10:00 came, 12:00 came, and now since 7:00 I was panicking because I was calling him and he didn't answer the phone. I kept calling some people to talk to and I tried to keep calm but my mind was racing and I was driving myself very nuts. I called his phone all night long. I text message him to come home that I missed him. I missed him so much. Well 6 am came along and I got a call from him, I was mad but so happy to hear from him. I ask what happen and he told me that he was at a park and he feel a sleep.I was happy that I didn't cut my arm out of angry and didn't brak any glass, what I did do however was kept my poor mom up.
Here is also a posted from another time.
My husband has been sober for about 6 months. Then I have noticed things that were different. Some of his behavior reminded me of things that he just to be like. The way he would talk. Some of the comments he makes. However, I try not to think too much into it. I thought that maybe that the way he is now even though he is sober. We went to AC last Saturday, I was gambling at a machine for a while, I would go look for him, and he would be nowhere to be found. Well maybe he steps away. Well one time I found him and he has a cranberry drink and I tasted it but it tasted funny but I did not make a big deal about it. On Sunday we went to the shore to go to the boardwalk, play games and there was a place to go dancing it was a bar area. We paid the money to get in a then he went to get our drinks and I was standing by him and he got the same cranberry drink an I again tasted it and the same taste was there so I asked him if there was any alcohol in it and he said no, I called the bartender over to ask if there was alcohol in it and they said yes that is what he ordered. We end up leaving. Then yesterday he told me that he was going for bread and I didn't know at the time but he took my car, and was gone for 2hr. I was so mad. He came home drunk and then started with the yelling at the cursing and me. He blames me because his son was not letting him go outside so he took it out on me. I can't understand why I am staying with this. It was such a nightmare the last time. I was wondering what is wrong with me.I am waiting for the right moment and to see if I can take it again. I don't know but right now, I am nervous about what is going to happen tonight. I just to hate that I have to worry every day if it is going to be a good day or not.I do not know honestly, why I wouldn't give up the situation. I love him and I am so attached to him it isn't healthy.
Dear Friend,
Trust your gut! It is GOD speaking to you. I too never liked to listen to my gut and reading your story was as if I had written it. Pour your love into you and dont waste it on him. Remember that an A will tell you what you want to hear to cover up. Do you know the 3 C's? How true is this, you didnt cause it, you cant control it and you will not cure it. You think you love him, maybe you do, but you need to look in the mirror and love yourself, you deserve more. It will only hurt for a moment not a lifetime. Good Luck.
Yvette
We are smarter then we give ourselves credit for. If your gut is telling you something is not right......it's not right. Hang in there, do something nice for you.
Hugs Mary