I have known my husband for 6 years and married for 1 yr. We just to have very voilet fights, we would be physical with one another. He was at the time drinking and doing drugs. He used to tourtement me and I felt so alone. I would call me mom and cry my eyes at and feel as though I had no one to help me. I would cut my arm and throw glass, going looking for him all over the place. Call all the people that know him. I would call him all the time.
He was sober for 6 months so I put my guard down and trusted that things wouldn't go back to the way they were, and then in a blink of an eye things are like they never ended. I worry about what i am going home too, is he going to be my loving husband or going to be mad at me and blame me for everything.
I know there is nothing I can do about his drinking but it doesn't make things any easier. I am still having diffuclt about dealing with everything. The last time however I got stuff set up at my job that if I need to take some time off I got it. I have up to 12 weeks to take off. I can take it day by day. I just have to have my doctor write me a note and I know he will work with me. I also have the groups both on and off line. An some friends that will help me through this. I just got to let the help me, whether it will be staying at there house, or living there (my parents) but I am not alone.
bubbles1990 said
Sep 7, 2005
Hang in there ((((nycbt)))) my prayers are with you!!
Take one day at a time and be easy on yourself!
Love and hugs to ya!
Bubbles123
lin0606 said
Sep 7, 2005
Do what you need to to keep yourself safe. And, if you know that you are at risk of becoming violent yourself, stay away from the situation! You have some tools now that you didn't have before, it doesn't have to be the same old thing.
Dolphin123 said
Sep 7, 2005
(((((((((nycbt)))))))))),
Just do what you need to do to take care of you! Stay as safe as you can.
Much Love,
abbyal said
Sep 8, 2005
Hello NY, sorry uare going thru this again , but I am going to break all rules and give u some advice. You have alot of days accumulated for holidays , I would love to come here one day and find out that u took a holiday just for you.
Someplace quiet and sereen where u can spoil yourself on a daily basis , me thinks u have earned it . (hugs) or perhaps visit an old friend you havent seen in awhile. Staying home to watch is such a waste of your life there is nothing u can do about him and I know u know that. Please Please take a holiday. Love Louise
I have known my husband for 6 years and married for 1 yr. We just to have very voilet fights, we would be physical with one another. He was at the time drinking and doing drugs. He used to tourtement me and I felt so alone. I would call me mom and cry my eyes at and feel as though I had no one to help me. I would cut my arm and throw glass, going looking for him all over the place. Call all the people that know him. I would call him all the time.
He was sober for 6 months so I put my guard down and trusted that things wouldn't go back to the way they were, and then in a blink of an eye things are like they never ended. I worry about what i am going home too, is he going to be my loving husband or going to be mad at me and blame me for everything.
I know there is nothing I can do about his drinking but it doesn't make things any easier. I am still having diffuclt about dealing with everything. The last time however I got stuff set up at my job that if I need to take some time off I got it. I have up to 12 weeks to take off. I can take it day by day. I just have to have my doctor write me a note and I know he will work with me. I also have the groups both on and off line. An some friends that will help me through this. I just got to let the help me, whether it will be staying at there house, or living there (my parents) but I am not alone.
(((((((((nycbt)))))))))),
Just do what you need to do to take care of you! Stay as safe as you can.
Much Love,
Hello NY, sorry uare going thru this again , but I am going to break all rules and give u some advice. You have alot of days accumulated for holidays , I would love to come here one day and find out that u took a holiday just for you.
Someplace quiet and sereen where u can spoil yourself on a daily basis , me thinks u have earned it . (hugs) or perhaps visit an old friend you havent seen in awhile. Staying home to watch is such a waste of your life there is nothing u can do about him and I know u know that. Please Please take a holiday. Love Louise