Wow, this morning I signed on and he had alreay responded. He wrote that he just wanted me to know that he got my email and he wants to sit down and talk about this with me. I did't expect him to even read his mail until Monday. I feel bad that now I can't even make it to church and I dont want him to think it's because I feel akward. So I wrote him back telling him it's because my pelvis and lower back really hurt and I dont think I can sit in the pue for an hour. Hopefully next week I can go, I always feel better after church. I am not due until December and it would really suck if I couldnt comfortably go until after then. Well anyways, just wanted to give the update. Thanks everyone.
mom to 2 said
Sep 4, 2005
Kimmie,
For me, things got better when I let some people know what was going on.
Not all the details but that my husband was dependent on alcohol and despite efforts to stop drinking was still drinking.
I think things are hard enough having 2 toddlers right now--I couldn't imagine being pregnant.
Please take care of yourself.
mom to 2
afglin said
Sep 4, 2005
I'm fairly new to these boards , but an "old timer" in AlAnon.
I scrolled down and read your other post. You said your pastors help was your last resoort. I can understand that. And i am sure if your husband knew it,. he'd be embrarrassed and probably even angry at you for sharing it. I know mine woudl. He'd refuse to ever go back to chruch if he knew I'd stalked tothe preiest.
I have not followed your other post, ut hve you ever been to face to face alanon? That was such a HUGE help to me. By posting and giong o online metings you ahve a taste of what alanon is about. But the f2f meetings are so much more powerful. You can get the real hugs.AlAnon is for YOU. it helps us learn to deal with how we react tot he drinking.It actually saved my married. I woudl ahve left 12 or 13 years ago if it were nto for alanon.
i do hope your pastor can counsel you. And dont be surprised if he suggests ALANON.
Praying for you Kimmie!
LIN
Diva said
Sep 4, 2005
Mom to 2 is exactly on target kimmie. The load lifts a bit when you let someone know. I thought, all my life, I could handle everything. And I did until an A came in to my life. I HAD to share with family and a very best friend. Then I had someone I could confide in who was close to me. Good for your pastor for getting back to you so quickly. I hope your talks with him will bring you peace. With love, Diva
Kimmie,
For me, things got better when I let some people know what was going on.
Not all the details but that my husband was dependent on alcohol and despite efforts to stop drinking was still drinking.
I think things are hard enough having 2 toddlers right now--I couldn't imagine being pregnant.
Please take care of yourself.
mom to 2
I'm fairly new to these boards , but an "old timer" in AlAnon.
I scrolled down and read your other post. You said your pastors help was your last resoort. I can understand that. And i am sure if your husband knew it,. he'd be embrarrassed and probably even angry at you for sharing it. I know mine woudl. He'd refuse to ever go back to chruch if he knew I'd stalked tothe preiest.
I have not followed your other post, ut hve you ever been to face to face alanon? That was such a HUGE help to me. By posting and giong o online metings you ahve a taste of what alanon is about. But the f2f meetings are so much more powerful. You can get the real hugs.AlAnon is for YOU. it helps us learn to deal with how we react tot he drinking.It actually saved my married. I woudl ahve left 12 or 13 years ago if it were nto for alanon.
i do hope your pastor can counsel you. And dont be surprised if he suggests ALANON.
Praying for you Kimmie!
LIN